Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Having babes later in life and family is way less interested in our journey, an unexpected consequence of waiting.

Me and my husband are in our mid-30s and just starting our family with a babe due in April. I have two siblings, one of which has three babes ranging from 8 years old to 4 years. Both of my husband’s siblings have 2 kids, ranging from 4 years to 1 year old. We’ve both been super involved in our nieces and nephews li...

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Do you use gentle parenting?

Do you last all day with it? Do you ever raise your voice after gentle parenting doesn’t work? Curious..asking for a friend

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Positive 💗

Here we go again. So excited and very nervous about how to manage two. Any tips gratefully received xxx

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How to announce boundaries

34 weeks pregnant and feeling like baby may come early.. I would really like to put some boundaries in place for when baby is born such as i only want my partner in the hospital and i would like atleast a week untill visitors come to see baby.. maybe even longer depending on how i feel. my partner has no issue wit...

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Default parent

Anyone hate being the default parent sometime? 😓

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Runny eggs

Am I allowed runny eggs? I love them but heard you can’t then heard you can aslong as it has the red lion on it. Can’t remember from my first pregnancy, still got baby brain 😩🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

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Cyst in baseline transfer ultrasound

Hi! I’m curious to hear your all experience, I am finally doing my first transfer after three retrievals and they mentioned I have a small cyst. They told me to not worry because if hormones come back ok, everything moved forward. Is there anything else I should ask about this? Anyone gone through this experience? T...

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Husband bonding with new daughter

So I had my second daughter in October. I am white British and my husband is 50:50 mixed African and white. Our first daughter is very dark and our second is very pale. My husband is worrying that everyone will think either she is adopted or I cheated! I tried to explain the genetics but he won’t listen! Any advice?...

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Controversial opinion 😅

Those who don’t have kids who say they could never have only one child need to stfu 🫢 Have one and then come back to me. OR EVEN BETTER have one by accident, low income, traumatic birth/pregnancy and THEN come back to me 🥰

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How many eggs retrieved is a good number?

I am 35 years old and had my eggs retrieved today. Initially I had 13 eggs but according to the doctor only 6 are good quality. Would 6 be a good number?

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Scared for Baby #2

My son is 17 months old and my husband is ready for a second one. I’m a little nervous. I love my son so much but becoming a mother has been one of the hardest transitions for me. It was hard on me mentally and physically. I would like to have a second kid so that my first born can have a friend and sibling. That is...

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Collecting colostrum

This is the most I've gotten in one session so far. I'm feeling pretty proud!! Has anyone else started collecting?

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Grandparents and childcare expectations

Just wanted to see different views about this question. We live very far from family and have done all the parenting on our own. It has been exhausting and childcare so unaffordable that we know we can never have another child. We do dream about "oh wouldn't it be wonderful if we had some help, even if it was just o...

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2 week wait,

Had my first FET on the 12th, Anyone else currently in the 2ww. X

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One and done?

Seeing a few posts about Baby number 2, anyone else in the one and done club? The idea of going through it all again fills me with anxiety and dread rather than excitement so while I mourn the idea of a sibling for my baby, I would rather be a halfway decent mum to one than a substandard mum to two. I have been luck...

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When did you get your normal period after egg collection?

Hi, would love to hear others experience. I had buserilin injection due to risk of OHSS and had to freeze all following egg collection. I was advised there would be a withdrawal bleed - can anyone tell me how heavy this is from experience? How long after the egg collection did you have a normal period and how lon...

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Do you get why people decide not to have kids?

I personally have so much respect for people who know themselves well enough to know that they do not want to have kids for whatever reason, especially in a society that places so much emphasis on having kids. (Btw I’m not talking about the people who don’t have kids but are actively TTC)

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Child services and foster care

My son has been taken into care because of his dad n ive been told its about 6 months before i can possibly have him back has anyone gone through this before

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What does “ spoilt” mean to you ?

Like what would a child have to do for you to use the term spoilt ?

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Christening

Are we still Christening our babies or leaving them to choose their faith?

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