Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

Are we still Christening our babies or leaving them to choose their faith?

Seriously, why can't we just respect the fact that we are all out here doing our best. We are doing what we believe is best for our kids.

With Christmas approaching does anyone else hate the idea of family members you don’t really get on with holding your little one? I know people can be firm about others holding their baby but he’s not a newborn anymore and some are quite close family so I feel there’s an expectation.

Does your partner make comments about how messy (not dirty) your car looks? Does your partner understand how difficult it is to keep a car spotless when having kids? Thank you

when parents say “i didn’t do this with my first baby, so i’m not doing it with my second.” example A - “my first baby didn’t have the vaccines because they’ve changed them since he was born so my second baby won’t have them either” example B - “i know of someone who gave their baby cows milk at 6 months so i will t...

I keep seeing on comment sections on FB & IG (especially from child-less people) that it is super irresponsible bringing children into the world with the way the world is? Idk I have 4 babies and want more...

I don’t know how to deal when yes I’m not trying to replace bio mom but I’m still expected to love step child as if they were my own . How ? I can’t when I’m so restricted which is fine out of respect but then also how do I face the struggles with continuing on with my life and my daughters when by default step chil...

Anyone else find it frustrating that grandparents (our parents) always talk about how much help they had when their children were younger and how they couldn’t have continued to work, earn good money and build a good life for their family etc without the help of their parent’s childcare - and yet are not offering to...

Has anyone else struggled with agreeing on things with their partner for when baby is born? I have said I would not be comfortable with family kissing baby, he said that is being too protective and will let them. I also would not want everyone holding baby the first few weeks only immediate family and close frie...

As often as you play the game or want to play the game (especially in the newborn-3 year old phase); has anyone ever verbally complained to their partner about having to take care of the baby and made your family feel like a burden?

My husband and I are both agnostic but we still want our LB to have a “godparent” like role in his life anyone else on the same boat what do you call them? We had a humanist wedding and our celebrant suggested like a guide parent but that seems a bit naff Also don’t want to get my MIL too excited because she’s sti...

Does anyone else feel like our parents are just so judgemental and critical of how we raise our kids nowadays? Like damn I thought I would be a strict parent until my son got a little older now I'm realizing I want to take a gentler approach than I thought I would. His personality makes it hard to do things the typ...

Hi all! I’m in a bit of a predicament. My son was born and took his father’s last name due to his request. I tried to speak about double barreling which wasn’t an option. We have since split up and he has tried to stop me changing our sons last name (despite the fact I have made no attempt to) I’m unsure if I actual...

Has anyone got any tips or tricks. This was my first time and it went ok I think not sure what’s normal to get but found it took ages to get anything and was a bit fiddly.

Has anyone else hit the nesting stage and making sure everything is right for arrival? Due in 4 weeks and this project has given me energy. FTM!

My husband and I have been debating on having another child. I for sure wanna have another one he’s not sure. Now all of our family lives either far or never want to hangout. So all the holidays are always lonely. I want have a bigger family so we can have our own traditions as they grow older and that they have a s...

My baby daddy and I call parents but he’s not on the bus certificate. Does he still need to pay child support even though he’s not on the birth certificate?

my parents really want to ‘wait’ whilst I’m in labour at the hospital. I’ve tried to explain that I don’t want anyone there but I know as soon as I go into labour they will get ready to come and wait. ( I think they also think I’ll be in hospital for a few days when it theory if all goes well, most people are out sa...

If you changed your mind after having kids? Why?

I am devastated by what i've learned about my family in the last week through Thanksgiving interactions. How are you all navigating the dynamics of keeping a toddler or young child safe around a family with a messy history? Everyone in my family has been abused or is an abuser and I refuse to let my child be exposed...