Co parenting with a newborn

My lg is 8 month and I’ve co parented since she was born. It depends on your relationship with the other parent are you civil ? Xx

Currently going through this now and it's hard! Xx

@Ceri we are but it’s such a hard situation as he’s now with someone new and his mindset is all over the place so before he was born there was promises that he would be here to help more etc it’s just so disheartening. We get on really well but i feel he’s avoiding a lot of responsibility and then pushing for me to look at other options rather than breastfeeding so he can have him more not at mine xx

@Stephanie it is isn’t it, I brought baby boy home Saturday thinking he would stay with me to help as that was the orginal plan but I had to spend a couple of nights in hospital so he didn’t want to stay that night xx

Same situation my bd got a new partner whilst I was pregnant I bottle fed. He came to mine for the first two weeks nearly everyday but I just told him when to leave cos newborn just feed and sleep so it was awkward we were just sitting watching tele together 😩 then we did 2 days he would come here for an hour then Saturdays I would drop her off at his mams for an hour and eventually this increased by an hour each week then at 12 weeks she stayed at his over night - it killed me but it gets easier. He now only sees her one night a week as his gf doesn’t want him coming to my house to see her. I just stopped caring as long as I see her and I’m there for her he can do what he wants but do try create a schedule so at least you dont have to talk as much and you can prepare for them going cos its a lot leaving them and also try enjoy your ‘free time’ even if it’s a nap / house tidy xxx

My baby is three weeks old and we split at the beginning of the pregnancy just due to him not making much effort in the relationship and it was pretty early days! He then ignored me and hardly asked about how baby was doing during the pregnancy, turned up for a few appointments towards the end but just treat me like Itbwas my fault I was going to be a single mum etc. He was pretty much projecting that I'd bruised his ego by ending it basically so continued to be sour. He was admimant he was going to be there for our daughter, so I allowed him at the birth, he was awful throughout the whole birth and said some horrid things which just made my experience sad when it should've been happy! So he took the two weeks paternity and basically he's shown up three times following the birth for around two hours each time and just sat there and fed her, offered no help. It's been three days and he's not messaged to see how she's doing or when hes next coming!

It’s like I wrote it but I didn’t let him at the birth he was the first visitor and I didn’t know he had a gf I found out 2 weeks pp so he was posing for family pics in hospital 😂 you’ve just got to remember your the main provider and carer so as much a dads have rights when they are so small it has to go in your favour especially when they don’t make much effort they can’t expect to have everything their way! Don’t bother txting him it’s up to him to make the effort or for the sake of your kid you can try create the schedule and if he lets yous down then that’s on him. Have you got family / friends to help you? Xxx

Yeah exactly! He randomly sent me £100 last night which I think he thinks is enough for child maintenance 😂 but other than that heard nothing and I ain't gonna try for him to have a relationship with our daughter! He thinks he can just turn up when he likes and it's all Rosie clearly! But if he messages next I'm going to ignore it because it's disgusting that he's not made effort what so ever and thinks it's okay! He was going to be on birth certificate but if he turns up to the appointment he's going to be told he's not going on it right now unless at a later time he shows up for her he can be added but definitely not right now. Yeah I have plenty of support and definitely don't need him! X