To all the moms who have decided to have only one child.
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We can definitely feed one more child. But we will need to move to a cheaper and older house, eat non organic food, no vacation, nothing extra. I don’t think I will be happy lowering standards. Even I am not materialistic, you can’t do much without money.
You want to be able to enjoy your life and not feel short or make crazy sacrifices to where you should be happy you feel miserable because you can’t go on vacations either with kids or just you and your other person….i would definitely make a pro and cons list to help sort this big decision.hope you can find your answer
I’m def only having one child. For many many reasons.
@Allie Share with us what are the reasons?
There were a lot of reasons we decided on one, but the main reason was we felt like a complete family at three. Although if we didn't, financial reasons would be the first thing we considered. We imagined giving our first a certain life and knew we couldn't do that with another. That would involve sacrifices we didn't want to make.
I feel like that. We already struggle financially but I don’t think another would make things any worse. I didn’t have a great birth experience and always said I didn’t want kids. But now we have a little girl I feel bad that she won’t have a sibling to play with
Sure - finances, mental health, lack of family support/community, career goals, marriage - all are considerations for us. We both work full-time in demanding industries and I’m in a senior role - ie stressful. We don’t have family nearby for support. I’m 37 and don’t know if I could physically/mentally do it again. I very much struggled with PPD / adjustment disorder and don’t know if I or my marriage could handle the early days again. We also love to travel and want to retire at 65. I believe in knowing your financial limitations and living within your means (with savings) and confidently providing for one child is important. It’s a very loaded topic but ultimately the right decision for us.
Kids are expensive as it is…I feel like if you can’t feed one more child and feel like your trying me make it with what you have …if you feel like you are over your head then don’t have another…at the end the child doesn’t ask to come into a world of struggle.