Do I go to baby group?

Last week Monday my daughter (16 months) woke up with a cold. She had a fever etc pretty bad. Two days later me and my son starts feeling a bit unwell. My son (2 months) had very low fever, and only had to take paracetamol for one night. I haven't gotten any fever but do have had a but of a sore throat and sniffle. Wednesday this week I have been invited to a sibling baby group, were both my daughter and son is welcomed. It's a small group on purpose because everyone is bringing at least two children. There is only two sessions left and this will be my first one. But the reason I really wanted in anyways is because one of the mums have a daughter my daughters age, and a son my sons age! And they are considering the sake nursery as us. I am terrible at making friends. I was bullied growing up and have been a loner my entire life. I don't want my children to suffer because I'm socially inept 😞 Which is why I thought this group was so perfect! A small group, and lots of focus on the children. Now ofc, I don't want to make anyone sick!!! I know the session is in two days but I just wanted some advice on what to do. My son isn't showing any signs of a cold anymore - he seems fully back to normal. I have a slight sniffle but really something I'm not really noticing. My daughter had it worst and still has a bit of a sniffle too, and a slight cough. She hasn't had any fever or a runny nose for a week. So with everything on the line do I go or not? Do you think we are still contagious? Thankful for advice!

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Just the fact that you wrote this and aren’t sure….please keep your kids home to be on the safe side. There will be other play dates.

I wouldn't go. Remember that little sniffles for us can be much more severe for little ones. I think if I saw someone sick at a get-together and then my child got sick afterwards I probably wouldn't want to invite that person around too much because I'd feel that they wouldn't be considerate and tell me when they're sick--potentially risking my family getting sick anytime I get together with them. If you know this person well enough, you could send them a text or email and tell them you're not going because your family is sick, but offer to grab a coffee when you're all feeling better.

Don't go. Like Kayla said a sniffle for one person can be around for another - especially little ones. I would be so angry if my baby or myself got sick because a sick mummy and her kids came to the same playgroup as us. It's considerate you are asking and I hope you make the right decision to stay home. You can just go to other play groups in the future!

A week out of the initial cold. No one has fevers. Remaining symptoms very slight. If you have a way of contacting to ask if people mind that’s a considerate thing to do but the world cannot stop every time children get a cold. As long as she was well in herself with no fever I would take my daughter to groups etc unless it was literally the first few days of a cold as that’s when it tends to hit the hardest/is the most contagious. If it were a play date with a friend I would ask and abide by the wishes of the other parent. Got to build an immune system somehow. You’re contagious several days before a cold even presents symptoms, so do you just not go anywhere ever in case you’re in pre-cold?

@Charlotte I suggested she doesn't go, not because of her daughter, but because she herself is now symptomatic, which means she's contagious. You do need to build an immunity at some point yes, but for the other two month old that'll be there, yeah I probably wouldn't want to make plans in the future with someone who went, knowing they were sick. Especially if my child ended up getting it too.

@Kayla I read it as she started with symptoms 2 days after her daughter - in which case it’s now been 5 days so will be over the most contagious period, but can still be symptomatic. And by Wednesday it will have been a whole week. I appreciate that, which is why I said if there’s a way to check with the group first that’s the considerate thing to do. I just wanted to present the other side and my opinion as no one else has on this thread. But completely understand everyone else’s point of view.

@Charlotte I understand. I personally wouldn't go even if I just had sniffles. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten sick when someone says they "just" have the sniffles (after the fact of meeting for plans) and had the worst part of their cold a week prior. I just wouldn't risk it. I get grumpy with people who get me or my child sick lol😂

If there are going to be newborns there - absolutely not. Don’t go. My daughter caught a cold when she was 6wks old which turned into RSV and a hospital stay, all because my SIL didn’t think her toddler was contagious anymore. My daughter is now 5 and anytime she gets a cold it turns into a chest infection, these are lifelong repercussions from her having RSV as a baby as she had zero immunity. It’s not worth the risk. There will be other occasions.

I'd go. It's only a cold.

This was the start of my LOs symptoms before she got HFM. It may not be and could just be a cold but she had a cold and sore throat then the temperature then about 3 days later got the spot which she was terribly unwell with. Hard to say as so many different things go around kids in the winter!

If there are other newborn babies I wouldn’t go. I went on a vacation (same Airbnb) with a friend and her family who had a sick toddler and she didn’t tell me before hand and my whole family got sick and now I probably won’t ever go on a vacation with them. I feel they didn’t respect that I had a 2 month old baby. If I just had my toddler I wouldn’t have cared as much but my baby, now she burned that bridge

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