Visitors when baby is born
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Tell everyone you need one month minimum to recover. You've had major surgery. Tell your MiL to cancel her flight. I have family flying in after 5 weeks post c section and they have asked and made sure it's ok. Your health and baby's health is your No1 priority. If she doesn't like that, tough!
Put the boundaries in place now. We’re doing a minimum of two weeks just us and immediate family, and it’s been explained already that if they’re showing any signs of illness they’ll just have to wait. Friends and extended family very much know that they’ll be told when they can come round and there’s no option to just pop over. I’d say your husband needs to take charge of the conversation with MIL, you don’t need that kind of stress.
We're planning to have the 2 weeks of my husband's paternity leave as just us really. Luckily we don't have large families so probably won't have an issue of too many people turning up. But we will be setting boundaries of no turning up unexpectedly, no sickness, no kissing, hand washing mandatory etc.
As the ladies have said, set boundaries! It's yours and your husbands baby that's all no one else's. I would be so annoyed if she had done that without even asking you if it's okay to come. Be firm in your decisions and stick to it, and if no one likes it tough, you're literally looking out for your newborn baby
It’s absolutely your job to advocate for your unborn baby, and it’s totally okay and reasonable to say no. If I was in your situation with your MIL I would tell her to cancel her flight as introducing a completely new person into your newborn bubble will compromise his immune system which is essentially non existent at first! If she responds negatively, the question for her is “would you like me to compromise the health of my newborn baby so that you get what you want?” Sending love, it’s really hard but trust your gut on this ❤️
I’m due in 2 weeks and have made it clear I’ll let people know when I’m ready for visitors. I’ve decided not to put a time frame on it because I won’t know how I’m feeling. This is my 2nd, and with my first I suffered badly with PP anxiety, around my baby’s health. My SIL was on holiday and when she came home she asked to come round, I had a gut feeling and said no. She turned out to have Covid. I found it hard to set boundaries with my first, but I’ve since learnt that if anyone has a problem with it, they’re the exact reason we need to set them. You’re not responsible for anyone’s feelings, just the safety of your baby and doing best by your little family x
Do not feel bad about this because if you baby get unwell you are the only person that will stand in the hospital Ppl should also be more aware . My 2weeks old baby had a visit yesterday from my husband boss but I don’t care who’s the next person to come over as I won’t let seeing her… already told him off also because everyday he calls his parents and out the camera for 30min std on my baby’s faces… come on