family woes

Good question I’d also like to know because I’m going home on Tuesday for a funeral and I’m dreading it

Have your own traditions. It's better to not know your blood relatives than to be abused by them or let your kids be abused by them. It's hard to hold it all, but you can do it, Mama. You are raising the future, don't let the past hold you back. If there is anyone you can still tolerate and want to have in your lives, you can invite them to participate in your celebrations.

I have cut off so much of my blood. The only blood that I still keep around is my brother and sister. And they live no where close to me. But without the toxic blood I am so much more happier.

Abusers should get cut off. Actions have consequences. Create a chosen family of good people for your child(ren).

Thank you all for your feedback. I am definitely going on the route of staying close to chosen friends/fam that I have known for over 20 years and who are intentional about breaking generational curses. the last few weeks have been very stressful for me, I have felt physical decline my body from processing the information I received while at a family reunion that was supposed to be fun and light. I don't want my children to know any of the abuse In their family line and will do my best to protect them from it. now I understand why my older cousins distanced themselves completely from my extended family, even my mom. it all makes sense now. I started therapy to release all the devastating information I received and will move forward with optimism and strength. Hopefully my children never find out about their true bloodline. please pray for us.

I'm sorry about the trouble you've gone threw. I'm glad you're getting the support you need and your breaking they cycle! Good job. Something to consider is not hiding the truth from your kiddos. I had a lot of resentment towards my mom from lying and hiding information from me. I have been open and honest to my children about things. I want them to learn without experiencing the ugly. I don't know your situation or anything. I just wanted to offer my point of view. Parenting is hard, I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. All we can do is hope and build a healthy relationship with our kids. I am rooting for you and your kiddos. Thank you for the update.