Midwives

Hey, does anyone know who I can contact regarding the care from the midwife’s I’ve had since being pregnant as I’m just not happy with the way I’ve been treated, I was allocated my first midwife and only saw her for my booking appointment and she was so rude I then saw a different midwife for my 16 week appointment , my next appointment I got a random midwife who just didn’t care about anything , I then got allocated a new midwife I only saw her for one appointment and I’ve had different midwife’s for every appointment I’ve had since I had my 34 week appointment yesterday which was supposed to be my birth plan appointment and the midwife I had was so rude , left me waiting in the waiting area for an hour after my appointment was supposed to start she then rushed the appointment I was in there 25/30 minutes she didn’t even ask me any questions about my birth plan just spoke through what normally happens and that was it , she didn’t check where my baby was positioned or anything and then rushed me out the door because she was running late , do I contact the community midwife’s? Any help would be appreciated ❤️

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Usually if you have a complaint you should contact PALS I think. But that can take ages so I would definitely contact the community midwife and explain you want more consistant care.

@Kelly yeah I was thinking about contacting the community midwife’s just because all of the ones I’ve had so far seem to not care about their job they get me in and out within 15 minutes usually and every midwife I’ve met apart from one have all been rude and dismissive, the most recent one put things on my birth plan I didn’t even agree to nor did she even look at my notes or anything about me on the system she kept calling me by my last name and everything I just found it so rude and unprofessional

Unfortunately I had the same experience with my midwifes during my first pregnancy. This is my second and was going to happen again untill I mentioned it and now thr lady who I am.seeing she now books me in with her each time. I feel like you get left to it most of the time to figure out yourself. I felt very alone in my forest pregnancy. Thankfully I have a friend who is a midwife so I could ask. I ended up printing a birth plan from online and filling it out myself and then I presented this on the day. Also keep it in your folder. If you have a partner make sure he's aware of your wishes to make sure they are followed through if your unable to x

@Aliyyah please make sure you advocate for yourself. Your birth plan is YOUR plan. Make sure everything is YOUR wishes. If not, get it changes asap

@Aliyyah I’m sorry thats so frustrating. I had my first in Bedfordshire but so far with this pregnancy I have a had different midwife each time. I would definitely write the birth plan yourself, I did with my first and made sure my partner was aware of what we wanted (my birth ended up going the absolute opposite direction but at least we knew our boundaries!). You deserve to get the care you want so I would definitely speak up!

I'm sorry you're experiencing this. It's weird since there is usually one assigned midwife for you rather than different ones each time. You can try to get in touch with Head of midwifery. Check out the MKUH website and they also do meet the team days which they announce the dates for on the website too and you can seek some advice there as well.

This sounds exactly like my experience in 2023. I thought I just got unlucky. I was at Wolverton medical centre. Trouble is I didn’t know any better so I thought maybe it was just the way it was. Every midwife I saw kept saying induction and I kept saying no. And they just kind of laughed and said well you may not have a choice. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

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