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Get rid of that absolute loser 🤮
He’s going to destroy you, what he’s doing is abuse and if he can do this to you when you’ve just not long had his baby then believe me it will only get worse. Please for your own sanity and your children’s happiness leave and never look back I promise you in the long run you will be so much happier x
I’ll say be careful because he’s using the recording against you and if you leave he will use them against you as a means to control you and in court. He sounds like a narcissist, I’m sure showing you love and affection, treating you differently in front of others making it seem like he’s the perfect person and then behind closed doors doing all sorts of terrible things that I’m sure goes beyond just provoking these reactions out of you. Once he’s said/done and gotten the reaction he wants and your upset he will act like normal hence the asking if you want something to eat and acting as if he just hasn’t been a pos. Look into narcissism, gaslighting, grey rock method, make a plan &find an out baby because it won’t get better. It’ll only get worse. I’ve been there, I’ve only recently gotten out after 3.5yrs. My BD sounds almost identical to this. You’re more than welcome to message me if you like, happy to share experience, be a listening ear or whatever you might need right now ❤️
Tell him to get lost. He's an arsehole.
What a horrible person. You deserve better❤️
Try get on his phone and delete all that. Then leave!!
Depending on the state it's illegal for him to record you like that. Just saying. On top of that. wow. He'd rather record you, after asking for help, than actually help. My husband lives with me and our 10 month old. I say it like that because I am the sole provider. He doesn't work. He asks his mom for money using me and baby as a reason even though I have everything taken care of. He didn't even contribute to anything or hand me money to put towards the bills. He spends it on beer and alcohol and whatever else he leaves for multiple hours for. I started working the day after coming home from hospital. 4 days after delivering baby. I have not healed inside properly because of this. When I'm working, he blocks off half the apartment (partially to help with sound but also to keep me in a room for 7+ hours and gets extremely hostile if I try to leave the room for food or to even use the bathroom during my shift. Why? Because I have seen him sleeping while baby is in the swing soaked in piss with the TV on.
I have came out from a 9 hour shift to having to change my sons diaper. After it being SOAKED.
And one time we got into an argument so bad, he accused me of recording our arguments before and this one, making nasty remarks. To which I said "nope, not recording, just in my phone playing a game while you bitch about irrelevant things you are just making up so you can have something to tell about". And he mentioned something about cops. And sure as shit. At 3am the cops came knocking on the door after our neighbor recorded our argument from that night. I SHOULD HAVE LET THEM TAKE MY HUSBAND. I SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING. I did not say anything. But I did give them certain looks and said things in certain ways for them to think back on later to remember this location. Because I may not need them now, but I will most likely need them.
He will never care about how you feel so stop wasting your energy trying to get him to see what he is doing. He knows what he’s doing, he doesn’t care. Provoking you and then filming it is psychological abuse. Leave him.