Would this bother you?

He’s bought me body amour recently which was really nice of him but he always gets me the orange flavor when I like the yellow. I know he’s just trying to be kind but I don’t understand why he can’t remember my preferences even if I tell him what I like he never remembers

I always say it’s only the thought that counts if you were thinking of the person you’re gifting

@Daija I definitely appreciate the fact the thought to get me a treat but we’ve been together 10 years so I get a little bothered that he never remembers what my preferences are

My partner was able to figure out my preferences before we even started dating. He was very much the “well just let me know which ones you like so I get the right one” until I told him that a major part of my love language is observation, figuring out what I like based on what I get or pick out. He got with the program quickly and is always spot on. It’s the thought that counts but I would be disappointed in your shoes, the thought includes knowing what you like 💖

Exactly like it’s not thoughtful atp it’s insulting

He should know by now but some men are airheads. I would suggest writing a list of your favourites and sending it to him, that way there won’t be any excuses

You can have him write them down or text it to him

Depends really. If you feel he genuinely can't remember/forgets or whether he is doing it on purpose like he can't be bothered or doesn't want to have to remember. Maybe get him to call you while he's out so you can pick or just send him a photo of what you would like.

I am not good with remembering those things, you should wrote it down for him. My suggestion

I’ll definitely try writing it down for him maybe making a note in his phone. I think he just over thinks things and gets confused. it just feels like he doesn’t know me sometimes which is pretty discouraging

I saw a man who wrote all his wife’s orders/ favorites in the notes section of her contact

10 years is way too long to not remember simple things like yellow not red and cookie not Oreo. My bd used to forget if I like salted or unsalted soft pretzels so he would just get both. If they wanted to they would smh b

So thoughtful that he’s even bringing anything. Trust me after 10 years many men push treating their wives to the back burner. You’re a lucky girl 🥰

I say charge it to his head and not his heart.

And This is why it’s important for your man to fear you a little bit 😂 he’d remember if there was a little nervousness about getting it wrong. Lol jk but yes it’d bother me and I’d be vocal about..

My petty ass would give him a taste of his own medicine and start buying him different scents of products he likes or worse still, generic shower gels/deodorant/food to what he normally uses. Be nonchalant and gaslight him and ask why he’s making such a big deal over nothing, it’s the thought that counts 🤣 Unbelievable that some women on here are calling you lucky that your man remembers you after 10 years? Jesus Christ the bar for men is in hell. Ridiculous how much shit women swallow and are told to praise men for it 🤦🏽‍♀️

I have a whole notes app for my wife, best friend, in laws, & my mom so that when I want to surprise either of them or they need cheering up i can get it right. Maybe suggest that to him ❤️