Am I wrong??

So today I had a growth exam to see the baby and my bf was off for the first time since I got pregnant so he came with me to my appt. This is the first appt he went to. So otw there, I stop to get our 4 year old something to eat. I’m low on funds bc I pay for gas, utilities, half the rent, everything for my daughter, and my own medications (I’m diabetic) and copays ($40) for the drs. So I only order her something since I’m dropping her off at my mom’s (they don’t allow kids at my appt). I order and drive up to the pick up window and he says soon as I pay for it “why you didn’t get me anything”. And I told him I’m low on funds I can’t pay for everyone. He says “I could’ve paid for my own food.” I’m like ok why didn’t you say that when I pulled up to the window instead of when I already paid?? So he gets an attitude says “whatever” and gets on his phone. I grab the food and ask him to hold it because there’s no space in the backseat and I don’t wanna put it on the floor because i don’t want it to slide under the seat. He says “no put it somewhere else I’m not holding it.” ATP I’m irritated and emotional and I said “I really don’t wanna deal with this today can you just hold it?” He again says no so I’m forced to put it on the floor. We drop our daughter off and go to my appt. I’m upset bc he’s now giving me the silent treatment and I go in the bathroom to wipe my tears. They do the check in and ultrasound and we go back to the car he’s still giving me the silent treatment. Then he tries to touch my nose and my belly and act like he didn’t do anything I told him not to bother me. He gets a call from his friend and puts it on speaker and his friend says “You gonna call Vanessa back and give her that good d***” I know he’s joking obviously but my bf plays along and says “I’ll call her later for that hahahaha my girl mad at me I don’t even care”. I felt so disrespected and hurt. His friends do stuff like that sometimes but he already knew I was upset with him. We go back home and he says “take me to Jack in the box” doesn’t even ask nicely. So we go he orders himself something and then says “that’s all!” Then we get to the pay window and he said “you didn’t want anything?” As if there’s not 5 cars behind us. I said no and we go home. We get home and he acts like he didn’t nothing then when he finally tries to talk to me I explain that he hurt my feelings and he says “you was crying for nothing you was rude first”. After going back and forth I just get more upset and walk away so he doesn’t hear me crying. Am I the one that’s wrong or what ? I don’t even know why I tolerate this bs anymore.

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Sorry I know this is a long post. Just wanted to add that I made dinner and I was feeling faint and went to lay down. He’s already laying down and I’m watching tv our daughter has not had a shower and he falls asleep leaving me to get her in the shower and help her get ready for bed while I’m not feeling good. I’m just so hurt and over this I can’t take it anymore

Wrong about being with him. He’s not going to change. I’m so sorry!

Wow he sounds like a prick. The immaturity then the conversation with the friend - not OK.

That's infuriating even reading that. No you're not in the wrong, and the joke phone call with his friend wasn't even funny.

I'm sorry you're experiencing these things. 1st want to make sure you're aware that the silent treatment is a recognized form of emotional abuse, and the rest of his actions/words are petty, immature, and imo abusive. You and your children deserve better.

That’s a miserable and utterly frustrating dynamic to be in. He’s like an obstinate child. I think you’ll continue to be incredibly frustrated in this situation sadly.

If you are even considering you did anything wrong, then I really feel for you.

You are valid with how you feel. He should be more supportive and mindful of your feelings. Hope your feeling better soon and he’s not being good enuff for you right now

He's so bullshit. This is a side note but if you have basically no money, don't buy your 4yo takeaway....make her a sandwich at home and send her to grandma's with that. The silent treatment, the disrespect about you to his friend, total arsehole.

@Ella I usually do but we were rushing. I hate giving her takeout but I knew she was hungry and didn’t want my mom to have to cook for her

He’s like another kid.. and his friends don’t have no business playing like that 💯 If he’s not demanding respect for your relationship, they won’t ever respect it. And he’s a grown ass man. He could’ve ordered his own food instead of being childish and not holding the baby’s stuff. Furthermore he’s dismissive of your feelings.. he could’ve apologized.

Leave him. How he treats you when pregnant with his child says everything you need to know about him. Hot and cold acts raise a big red flag. Acting like nothing happened after treating you like that and giving you the silent treatment is manipulation. Joking about another girl I can tell you right now he’s at least thought about it and him and his friends talk about it which is disrespectful toward you anyways. Get your kids and leave. File for child support if you need it and apply for all aid so you can leave this relationship and make a better life for you and your children

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