Thoughts… is this person insinuating that we don’t talk to our child?

Someone has repeatedly said to my husband or I “make sure you’re talking to her, talk to her all the time” about our daughter, 5 months I mentioned to hubby I felt like they were suggesting we don’t talk to her, but he thinks it’s not the case They’ve then said to my husband “make sure you talk to her. Do you see, how she responds when I talk to her?” (I can count on one hand the times my daughter has actually smiled at or babbled with x person lol) I often reply to this person saying “we do,” hubby being the simple chill guy he is says “yeah” . I’ve even said “she talks with us the most” We talk to our daughter all the time lol. She is with me 24/7 and her dad after his working hours, all weekend. Just us three at home so she’s always in our arms or our view. She recognises our voices now and obviously faces so wants us when we’re nearby. When we are with family or friends, we take a step back to let them engage with her as otherwise she will want us only. Sometimes we’re sat away from whoever has her and on our phones or just relaxing because what else are you to do 😄 but other times we will talk to her and acknowledge her playing with whoever she’s with What do you think? Is this person insinuating we don’t speak to our child? I find it super annoying as they say it during every visit now and on video calls. Makes me feel as though I need to start talking to my child while she’s with them just to prove we do 🙄

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I tend to find when people bring stuff up like this repeatedly it comes from their own insecurities about things they feel they did wrong with their own kids. I wouldn't take it too personally.

Maybe point out to them "jokingly" in a call that you talk to her every waking minute unless you're talking to them on the phone

Is this person your MIL by any chance? Lol

Maybe a bit of both, insinuating but in an advisory way? If they’ve never seen you talking to her (if you’re usually sat apart or on your phone) I can see how they might - wrongly- jump to that conclusion. Also, in another way I wonder if they might enjoy seeing you interacting with your child? My sister recently became a mum and it’s lovely seeing her with her baby and seeing her in a different light. But you obviously shouldn’t be expected to ‘perform’ for people! If it’s bothering you just mention it, doesn’t have to be a big thing. You might find it is from their own insecurity which would be much less annoying (!)

I’d just keep saying “we do” and that’s it. And I agree with @Steph that’s probably why she’s saying that and not to take it personally. A lot of people have unwarranted advice/opinions and sometimes you’ve just got to ignore it because you know it’s not the truth and even they probably know from you saying “we do” could even say “we do at home”. And if the person is generally too much, I’d limit the amount of time spent with that person.

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