Are you able to be frustrated around your husband or is he always trying to “FiNd A SoLuTiOn”?
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@Bailey solutions not welcome. 🤣
I told my husband that men think differently from women. Sometimes, we want to rant and moan about something. We don't need solution suggestions all the time. So now, he listens when I rant and waits for me to ask for help on what I can do next time. Then, he goes into problem-solving mode. If I don't ask for it, he’s just there being a hype man about how horrible that situation is. 😅
I will cry on my husband, and he will ask if I need help. Sometimes I do, and he will give his advice. Other times, he will let me cry on him after bringing me ice cream 😅
@Azrin I’ve asked him to do this and told him I’ll say I need help but he forgets.
@Rachel I love this
@Bailey if you are really looking for friends, start reading the room.
@Shore 😂😂😂I try to be part of the solution not the problem 🤷🏻♀️ . it’s reality .
@Sarah 🎀 then you’re always going to have a problem 🤷🏻♀️.
I would put that sleeping baby down anyway, if they wake up they wake up. There’s nothing you can do about it. Appointments are not something that you should miss unless it’s due to an actual emergency. Appointment also involve someone else setting aside time for you as well, and it costs them money. So the least you can do if you are willing to miss it is to call or email to let them know that you won’t make the appointment and then reschedule it. I would never use this as an excuse, but that’s just me.
@Nattinan agree ❤️.
Usually i want a solution and he assumes i just want to complain so he says nothing lol
Lol we’re the opposite - I’m the solution person & my partner is the one who just wants to moan. We annoy each other 😂
He’s a great listener!! Love that about him
He usually gets it and if he doesn’t I simply let him know I just want to vent. It’s natural for them to want to fix things, just communicate your needs.
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Mine is an engineer so he's extra problem-solving focused 🥴 He's gotten better at letting me rant and not offering solutions unless I ask.
@Bailey I was joking back at you.
@Nattinan how’s the weather up there on that high horse? They got paid. It’s called a no show fee most clinics have them.
@Olivia lol!!! My husband was complaining a few weeks ago and asked for a solution. I gave him so good advice and he was like who said I could be the rational one. 🤣 (with love of course).
@Kellie that’s amazing ♥️🙌🏼
@Kaylee mine is too! A software developer.
We are both guilty of this sometimes. I heard the saying ‘do you want comfort or a solution?’ a while back and so I often come back to that if I’m feeling frustrated and he will too. It’s an immediate thing to help the other realize they are trying to fix instead of listen or hey I actually need a solution for this lol
He’s a lawyer…. He’s always trying to find a solution 🫠 I have to give him credit though, he’s gotten a lot better over the years.
Sometimes we have “stress reducing conversations”. Learned it from a therapist but it is a conversation where no one is allowed to go fix anything. All the other person can do is validate and listen
I feel like men and women have very different ways to cope with situations, and it can be difficult for them to understand how we feel ! It is all about communication ! My husband for that is understanding even though he always first look for THE solution lol But for example sometimes I cry, I don’t know really why, it’s everything, it’s the hormones, it is a tiny thing becoming huge Idk myself, and my husband has a really hard time to understand that, he always thinks that I don’t want to tell him « the real reason » … which doesn’t exist 🤣
My husband tries to meet me where I’m at emotionally but more times than often I think he misses the opportunity it’s something I have to calmly communicate with him about because it can be very frustrating and trigger some past trauma of not feeling worthy
My partner will always just ask if there’s anything he can do to help .. sometimes there is, and sometimes there isn’t xx
I always plan ahead and I always leave early so kids can sleep in the car . And I try and make appointments before nap time early or after later in the day .