Partner..

This will sound really bad what I’m about to say. But all my partner does it moan which will sound really mean. But if it’s not about being tired, it’s mess or it’s money or it’s work or it’s the weather or it’s having no appetite and I know 2 babies is hard. We’ve a 6 month old and 2 year old, I struggle leaving them both I only trust my sister and mum (his family have crossed boundaries). He constantly moans we don’t have time but when we do have time it’s not enough. Once a month we try to a big date night then once a week a wee coffee, hour just us and when they are asleep we try have time. I dunno what else to do, but it’s so draining 😔

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The roommate phase is so hard… I can’t even find the time for coffee or date nights at all! Just keep trying to prioritize your relationship and acknowledge that you’re both tired and stressed etc. this is just a season of life! Maybe try finding a new hobby together, or ask your partner what you can do that would make them feel special.

Thank you!! I feel anything I do isn’t enough even when we do have time he doesn’t seem there, it’s sooo difficult

I get that, it’s hard to feel present and tuned in when there is so much going on in life at this stage. Just keep trying and communicate with each other!

He needs to get a grip tbh. You are parents now and that comes with a dynamic shift and more responsibilities. My partner works long hours mon-fri but will still do his bit around the house and kids, we have a 1yo and nearly 3yo who im with 3 days a week (i work 2 days a week atm) and we are not in the room mate stage at all. We still have plenty of time to cuddle and kiss and be intimate any chance we get eventhougb we are both nackered alot of the time (i also have MS so mostly me🙈). We LOVE being parents and instead of missing eachother, we embrace our family unit as an extension of us as a couple. We dont have date nights, or coffee hours (so you are getting more couple time than us currently) nor do we long for them anyway. We are a team in all things, yes stresses like being tired, mess and money are all there but we dont let it affect US. We have our down days but we pick eachother up and find a solution instead of just moaning about it.

Seriously thank you for this!! That’s how im feeling. This won’t be forever and when they are in bed we do have an hour or two! So stressful x

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