Time to myself is impossible with a WFH spouse

My husband is WFH. And it's not that bad, but I am never alone. Especially with my very clingy 9mo old. And I don't really need that much alone time, but I never have time to talk to friends on the phone because I feel like my phone calls bother him unless it's family or I can't joke around freely. I would take my calls outside like he does, but that means bringing my baby outside in super cold weather while I talk, and it's just such a hassle. Ngl, I miss being able to just say whatever I want on the phone with my friends. I need to complain sometimes, and yes, sometimes it's about him. But he gets SO defensive any time I criticize something he did or does. And I know if I text about it, he'll see it. He isn't even mean or anything he's just insecure, but I need my girl talk🙃 I have made zero friends since we moved bc everyone wants to meet up without their kids, which I am not able to do rn so I have nobody to talk to in person and I'm feeling so isolated.

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I would just go in the bathroom, or go in a bedroom and shut the door. Atleast it seems like you tried to make an effort to be quiet. If that bothers him just say you were talking to your mom or something, bc I feel like it’s really sad you can’t feel like you can’t talk to a friend here or there on the phone. And if he wants you to go outside just say it’s too damn cold rn. He should understand that. Also you can maybe text ppl so you can say whatever but he can’t hear. Also maybe FaceTime or zoom call your friends so you can feel like your getting face to face human interaction, w out leaving the house. But definitely when things start getting warmer you need to get out with the girlies sometimes. And I feel like if he doesn’t understand that you have to talk to him abt that. And voice your concerns.

@Emily he doesn't really care if I go out or anything, but idk if I need to complain ab something (like everyone needs sometimes) he just gets like upset bc he doesn't agree. And if I text about it I'll have to delete it because he goes on my phone to "play with my stuff" but ik when I'm not looking he is doing something else I'm not stupid. I'm hoping I have a friend by the time it's warm again bc I don't have anywhere to go really if not. I mean I'll take our kid to the park but going with someone would be more fun to start🤷‍♀️

Yea fs, going to the park is a great idea! And idk where you live but it will get warm soon so maybe just journal how you feel rn. But I would really encourage talking to him so you don’t go through this every winter.

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