How do you make time for yourself?
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I literally have no time for myself. I know that does not help you at all but just know you are not alone ❤️
Same hun! I hear you!
@Tali Completely agree, in a nutshell! But even with a nanny, they often only cover working hours so no time wins unless nanny doing major major hours! Where is our village!?
@Mee ah good point! And yes, bring back the village and alloparenting please!!!
Any chance you can work from home or hybrid working etc? Or reduce your hours for some time? There is literally not much else you can do unless you have family support, or can afford a nanny maybe. You can’t keep burning yourself off like this, maybe communicate about it with your husband and see if he has any suggestions on how you can get in some me time? I am a stay at home mum, my children only have a 14 month age gap, and even I need to prioritise things during their nap time or after they go to sleep. Though I am lucky I do have relatives and in laws around who are more than happy to help if I need it. So say I can leave the kids with them if I really need to go get a haircut, or of I can’t take them to an appointment. But honestly I only use the support when absolutely necessary. If I need to clean the house then it’s 12am-1am bed time for me too, something I have gotten used to, but at least I don’t have to be up at 5am-6am, your routine is tough no doubt.
If it’s a possibility then get a cleaner, life saver for me! (Toddler and a baby now) I batch cook so when I make a meal I make a huge lot and freeze it so there’s always at least half the week when tea time is easy as it’s already done. My toddler loves helping me cook at the minute, maybe involve yours so it kills two birds with one stone. Washing I put on a timer so it’s ready for me at convenient times, not sure if your machine has this option? Basically me involving my toddler with basic household stuff is a life saver as it’s entertaining them at the same time. I’m very busy all the time (still on mat leave so no doubt will be harder once back to work) but I’m managing to go play netball twice a week whilst my partner does bedtime etc xxx
Maybe just my own thoughts/jaded viewpoint, but unless you have family nearby or you’re not the primary / mental load carrying parent, you don’t get more than 30 mins a day to yourself. Safe to say I’m in the 30 mins a day camp 😬 Anyone who is living the pre-kids lifestyle likely has family members who help, a partner who doesn’t have big work commitments, or can afford a nanny etc