How do you make time for yourself?

I’m so jealous of the Mums who go to the gym, lunch with friends, shopping, get their nails done, shave your legs, get your eyebrows waxed, read or have hobbies… How do you do it? Finding it difficult to look after myself. I’m loosing myself. I work full time, out the house at 7:30am and travel back home from London then at 5:30pm from the nursery run (Mon-Fri). I have to make 1 hour up during the evening from leaving work early. My husband travels during the week for work, which makes it hard for me to get anything done. My boy is a night owl, he goes to bed around 8:45-9:15pm. I’ve tried everything to put him sleep at 8pm but I’m wasting my time in frustration. Every day is just getting through and making it to bed. If I want to clean the house, put the washing on I’m going to bed gone 12 midnight! Any tips welcome…

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Maybe just my own thoughts/jaded viewpoint, but unless you have family nearby or you’re not the primary / mental load carrying parent, you don’t get more than 30 mins a day to yourself. Safe to say I’m in the 30 mins a day camp 😬 Anyone who is living the pre-kids lifestyle likely has family members who help, a partner who doesn’t have big work commitments, or can afford a nanny etc

I literally have no time for myself. I know that does not help you at all but just know you are not alone ❤️

Same hun! I hear you!

@Tali Completely agree, in a nutshell! But even with a nanny, they often only cover working hours so no time wins unless nanny doing major major hours! Where is our village!?

@Mee ah good point! And yes, bring back the village and alloparenting please!!!

Any chance you can work from home or hybrid working etc? Or reduce your hours for some time? There is literally not much else you can do unless you have family support, or can afford a nanny maybe. You can’t keep burning yourself off like this, maybe communicate about it with your husband and see if he has any suggestions on how you can get in some me time? I am a stay at home mum, my children only have a 14 month age gap, and even I need to prioritise things during their nap time or after they go to sleep. Though I am lucky I do have relatives and in laws around who are more than happy to help if I need it. So say I can leave the kids with them if I really need to go get a haircut, or of I can’t take them to an appointment. But honestly I only use the support when absolutely necessary. If I need to clean the house then it’s 12am-1am bed time for me too, something I have gotten used to, but at least I don’t have to be up at 5am-6am, your routine is tough no doubt.

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