I want to preface this by saying that I absolutely love my children

But…why doesn’t society do a better job of warning parents to be and people in consideration, of the reality of parenthood BEFORE getting into it. It’s always swooning over over the top maternity photos, dramatic announcements and gender reveals for the attention (I know bc I did it) everybody says congrats and is fake supportive but once you have your kids, it crickets and you’re left to fend for yourself over THE MOST selfless decision you’ll ever make to raise kids who will one day contribute to society and yet there’s no village, no support, and no breaks. Just a violin playing in the background and hopefully you have some tissues near by lol 😮‍💨. Parenthood is not for the weak and idk I feel like there needs to be more awareness, especially now a days.

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Pressed disagree but only because I feel like I had a very realistic expectation of parenthood before getting pregnant. I knew it meant a loss of personal freedom, dealing with sleepless nights, tantrums, the unconditional love, all of it. Idk maybe I consume a lot of media or something but no part of it has come as a shock to me 🤷‍♀️

I knew exactly what motherhood entailed personally, and I still believe society should do a better job at being realistic.

I disagree. I think personally, people are constantly talking about what a big thing it is and how much it’ll change your life. But they ALSO talk about how amazing it is! No one who does baby showers, gender reveals, maternity shoots etc ever claim motherhood/parenthood isn’t the most difficult and big thing you’ll ever do, but they also celebrate how much of an amazing and lucky thing that it is. I personally think that no one hides around how hard it is, and the fact that a lot of the time you are left to do a lot on your own, but they just spend most of the time celebrating the good things as it’s the best thing a lot of people have ever done, no matter how hard ❤️

I went into motherhood expecting very little support. And knew I had to cultivate the village I wanted. I have had so much support and come from a family and close friends and I know things will change over time and that support will change and grow in different ways. I’m sorry you didn’t get what you expected from your journey

By society, do you mean social media? I think it’s naive to expect to get a realistic view of anything from platforms where people post the positives/highlights/and staged moments of their lives.

I’m sorry you’re struggling, you’re not the first mom to feel this way by any means. I felt very prepared for my first two kids but having a third has been hard and I did tell my mom she should have warned me more how hard it would be. I wouldn’t change a thing but balancing everything is tough and I’m not sure that will ever change.

@Charlotte I was also very curious about what is society in this situation

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