What would you think?

I’d say in some families this is fairly normal? How often did you see them pre-babys birth? Xx

Once or twice a year. My family have never said this, and would never. I would never say it, yet my partners Mum, stepmum and grandma have all said this upon visiting us. I think it's really rude, tbh. But am I being sensitive? @Jen

It's not worth worrying about it. If they don't care about you, why should you care what they think or say. If they are saying it as a joke, nothing to worry about.

I would consider that rude to be honest.

@Nedka 🧿 I think it just goes to the concept that all my baby would have to do is grow up like his father and that affection for him would be equally not available to him anymore and I don't really want anyone to bother loving my child if it's conditional on him being cute and amusing. It's hollow and cheap love and I want better for him. I want better for my partner as it stands today.

You definitely aren’t being sensitive. I guess time will tell whether they hang around in the tough times too… xx