Partner pissing me off🙃 pls say it isn't just mine who's an idiot🙃

Being honest…that doesn’t sound like an equal partnership, I know things can’t always be 50/50 but it doesn’t sound like he supports you in any way x

@Abi I don't think it is, not anymore anyway. He made a comment last night saying 'oh I helped you out the other night' because I said if you're getting up at 5am why don't you spend 10 mins feeding the baby like he did with our eldest so I got some sleep. He 'helped' the other night because he didn't go to bed till 2am and baby was hungry just before he came to bed...😐 x

This doesn’t sound like a partner, more like a man child. I would be demanding that he pays half the bills, why does he not in the first place?!

I think sometimes men can forget/unknowingly take for granted that being a mum is a 24/7 job & you don’t get to switch off When my second was born I found myself doing the night feeds & still doing the school run & it infuriated me, but I spoke to my partner & we worked together so now I have the baby & he does the school runs Monday to Thursday with our 3 year old & that works for us. If you’re telling him how it makes you feel, the least he can do is listen & act on it x

Why on earth are you paying for all the bills, when you’ve not worked for the last two years? What does he do with his money if not pay towards his children? What exactly does this man child contribute, it’s not sharing the housework or parenting? Honestly I’d be getting rid, he sounds like a headache that you don’t need x

I think I'm just scared to leave. I'm scared to be on my own, I've been with him since I was 16 and I'm now 25. I'm scared I won't be able to cope with the kids on my own even though he just sits there with the baby when he's not and doesn't move. He'll also have no where to go. I've spoken to him about it, he agrees we're not the same anymore and he's gonna try and make time for us and the kids but he still works until 6.30. I'd honestly looooove to know what his money goes on I really would 😬 I think I might just need to pull my big girl panties on and just do what's best for us. My 2yo doesn't even go to him for comfort, to get him a snack or drink, to play, nothing. I feel that should show me enough but I'm so 50/50 😒 x

@Sam I gave him a couple months to sort his finances out when we moved because he was down a lot. That was August....kinda took the piss of that offer I think😐 x

Girl you are carrying absolutely dead weight!! You will feel so much better to shed this weight. You can definitely do it alone!!

I personally would leave because you are resenting him and your life with him. No point in staying in a toxic environment for yours and the children’s sake

I’ve just been through a similar situation, we completely halved our bills for the past two years, now I’m on maternity leave receiving smp Ive looked into our finances. My partner earns double and more my wage so why was I leaving myself with next to nothing for two years 🤔 the conversation was had and now he has taken some more of the bills on and we both have spare money now. And same with our little one, he works 4 days a week 12 hour shifts but on his days off wasn’t offering help, still going about his day to the gym, visiting family and having full nights sleep. We spoke about it that being a parent is 24/7, while he gets days off from work I don’t get that me time from being a mum. Since talking everything has become a lot easier, we’re sharing a lot more of the responsibilities. Is having a conversation with your partner a dead end or is leaving him a better option?