I need to know if it's just me 😅🥲

I'm exhausted mentally. I love my daughter so much, she's an absolute blessing. But I spend so much time with just her, I think I'm starting to fade away. I never know when my partner will get home, so I feel like I'm constantly waiting for him to walk through the door & just give me a second of relief. Even if it's just that he makes us dinner, instead of me, whilst I put our LG to bed. However, in reality, I'm just home alone until she's in bed, then I tidy up, wash up, clean up and make dinner. I don't even have the energy (mentally, I think) to go out of the house. I just don't get a break, and yes, I know that's what being a mum is like, we are on 24/7 & often don't get our own downtime or help. Sometimes, I'm fine, I can cope with it, other times, it's been several days since I was "meant" to wash my hair & I don't get the chance to shower during the day, can't even find the energy to make a full meal for myself. I think I need to get out more, but honestly, I need some support at home 😅 I didn't think I'd be a single mum, with a partner. To any single mums on here, I respect the HELL out of you. You're amazing Sorry, this kinda turned into a rant 😅🤦🏻‍♀️
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Yup!! I’m the exact same! Just me and the two kids literally 24/7. Dad’s always working crazy long hours. I’ve had one of those nights tonight. Just mentally done! Made dinner and ended up not even eating in the end because baby was whinging for what seemed like hours. Couldn’t eat my spaghetti bolognaise with one hand!😂 impossible. Washed my hair finally tonight but didn’t want to get out the shower🫣 still have bottles to do washing to do. Uniform to do. Dishes to do😴 so I feel you. Some days are better than others. Rant over !😂

@Morgan I'm jealous of the shower not going to lie! I had to choose between food or a shower when she went for a nap today. I'm glad I'm not the only person who feels this, but also not glad, if that makes sense?

Totally. I feel like crap for feeling mentally frustrated but I’m just fed up but I try not show it to them obviously, then like I say I feel bad for feeling the way I do. You just cannot win sometimes. I’m so so tired tonight and I still have so much left to get done.

@Morgan I feel the exact same way, honestly it's rough

@Morgan the only thing keeping me going tonight, is knowing I washed 3 bottles up already & that I just need to sterilise them 😅

Yup. Same here. I have neglected myself sooo much since having a baby. I struggle getting a shower for myself. As I wait until my o/h comes home from work and then I try and get some time to myself but the jobs never end. I only get a shower when he's home but even then I'm running on empty so don't bother. Feel like a robot sometimes. As it's the same thing day in day out. I've started to go to baby groups. Once a week for a couple of hours to break my day up. Which is nice. I'm not a social person but I needed something

@Emily I think it's the constant repetition that gets me, to be honest, as you've said, it's like being a robot

Could've written this myself... feel like life is on repeat lately so we took baby to softplay on the weekend to break things up a bit and planning to take her to some baby classes during the week. I just think I need to get out more, although I don't have energy for it and absolutely agree about the showers. I was 'meant' to wash my hair as well hoping tonight I will when she goes down and I tend to shower after my husband gets home always.

@Samina I'm hoping to wash my hair once my LGs asleep too. I'm not sure I can wait for my partner, she just going to take the monitor in with me, just in case. I wish there were baby classes around that were later in the day (that don't cost an arm and a leg) because my daughter tends to nap around 10/11am, even if she only wakes up at 8:30 🥲 every place near me is 9-11am 🤦🏻‍♀️ I might just have to bite the bullet & wake her up early one morning & go

Same, I haven't been to a single session as it falls on her naptimes but I might have to just wake her up. Have you tried your local children's centres they're free as well as libraries they do storytime and singalongs for babies too.

I am a single mum so I feel this soooo much. It's tough but getting out makes me feel so much better

@Lauren so much respect for you. I think I'm going to have to push myself to leave the house more. I just really hate leaving home when I haven't showered 😭🥲

When I was on mat leave I felt I had to leave the house every day to have a purpose. Hope you managed to find a solution

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