Do you also feel that your children wear down your bond with your spouse?

My husband works every weekday. He leaves shortly before the kids leave for school, and comes home after they've already come back. We can't have a conversation, or cuddle, or do anything together really, because the kids always interrupt or wedge themselves in the mix or otherwise disrupt anything we try to do together. Everything revolves around them, and I feel like he and I are just roommates taking care of the same kids. We don't have anyone we can trust to babysit, so there are no breaks from this. On rare occasions, he will take a single day off from work to hang out with me.. except he's always on call and always gets multiple calls when off work, so even then we aren't really doing anything together. I'm not looking for advice or anything, it's just nice sometimes to know it happens to other people too, ya know?

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It most definitely (unfortunately) happens. We do have family willing to watch the kids for some time, but I only call on them for important appointments or if one of us needs to go to the hospital. It’s hard

I prioritize marriage > children, because children benefit from a strong marriage, but the reverse isn’t always true. It’s hard not to lose yourself or your bond with your spouse in those child rearing years.

Sounds like you need to have a conversation with your husband about how you're feeling. Your marriage should be the priority not the children. Even though we don't have the money or family to go out without kids often we still make the time to check in with each other and we hang out together when they go to bed. Also not like watch tv hang out. Like talking and connection hanging out.

Yep! The roommate phase is real and takes time and dedication to get out of(: taking breaks from the kids is vital, definitely have someone watch them so you can get some alone time, relearn each other, fall back in love. ❤️ always actively make your relationship a priority cause one day those kids will be grown and gone and all you have left is each other 🫶🏻

You are not alone. That sounds like how it is for me and my husband too.

I realize we need to date again. We have hit a bit of rock bottom and I just came to the realization we lost a bit of ourselves in parenthood. Being young doesn’t really help either. I’ve started just texting and asking how his day is like how we use to when we first met. Being flirtatious through messages. Picking on him again. Sending selfies. I’m putting my daughter to bed but I’m hoping when I get into the room I can chat with him more on how his day went and cuddle with him. That’s just the start of it though. We cant go on dates and stuff like we use to but I really don’t wanna lose us. So I’m hoping I can find some ideas we can do at home even with our toddler awake. Or maybe while she naps. Just need to find that time for us even if it’s little. You’re not alone though ♥️

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