Husband and Female Friends

Do you think it’s ok for a husband to have close female friends? Husband has past female coworker who he still regularly talks with on social media (like every day or every other day usually). I told him I don’t really feel comfortable with them texting frequently, so now instead he’s been talking to her on Facebook, sometimes in the evenings when we’re putting our kids to sleep. We’ve had a talk about boundaries and how it makes me feel like our relationship isn’t a priority, but he doesn’t seem to feel the same way. I think he resents me for trying to “control” their relationship. He has other female friends he talks to who I’m totally fine with… it’s more just a couple past coworkers who I don’t know and who he seems to be secretly talking to that I care about. Looking for advice.

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Imagine asking this question to Jesus back in the day...I'm pretty sure the standards for honor back then, apply to today too. I do not think your husband's actions are honoring you, your marriage, or God. No one is above honor. We all must be accountable.

Definitely not ok.

Eh 50/50. I think it’s okay to have friends. But if they hang out without me or talk all the time and their conversations aren’t great or last a long time then I don’t think that’s okay. I have friends from highschool that I’m close with that are guys that my husband is also friends with but sometimes I’ll talk to those guys just by myself. But I never just talk to them hours on end. Or go hang out with them by myself

Here’s the point… He knows it’s wrong or he wouldn’t be trying to do it in secret. So, frame it this way for him… Would he be comfortable in ya’ll’s relationship, feeling safe and secure, if he had expressed concern over a man’s intentions with you and you were like, “Oh, it’s nothing,” and continued talking with said man every day or nearly every day instead of being there with and for him?

If you’ve already communicated you feel uncomfortable, what more does he need to cut her off? His behaviour is showing he values interaction from her over your emotional security and respect for your boundaries!

Nope 👎 Absolutely not! That’s a boundary he is crossing if you’re not allowed to talk to your male coworker, friends or male confidence in the same manner and he wouldn’t be comfortable with that then clearly there’s a double standard

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