Do you feel appreciated?
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Tell him to pay for childcare, a cook, and a maid then. Also it’s very weird that he doesn’t want to spend time with his own child. If anything my husband and I fight cause I’m trying to take the baby back from him cause he wants her the entire time he’s home from work. (Yeah I gotta work on that lol). He is taking you for granted . Edit: and if he wants to provide and protect, why is he bitching about it ?
My husbands honors and respect my role as a mother and especially as a SAHM. But I also made sure that my husband was the type of man that would be appreciative of that whether I chose to be a SAHM or work. Have you had conversations with your husband about what providing actually is? What it means to be a husband and a father? Not just a professional? Cause being a good husband and providing is not just paying bills. Providing as a husband and father also includes emotional, spiritual provision and support.
You should leave. You are being abused.
@Annika that’s exactly what he does, such makes me feel like do you even like me and our baby?
@Lillian right!!! He said it’s because our daughter is too young and he doesn’t really feel much of a connection with her yet. He also said that he feels like he spend enough time with her and he has his own relationship with her that I don’t understand For context: he also work from home he decided to sleep in another room since the baby’s been born. He sees her in the morning before he start work and play with her for like 2-5 minutes to say good morning and he’ll see her again for like 5-10 minutes after work to say hi again while i am with the baby. Like he has no 1-1 time with the baby at all and he still feels like everything should he super organized at all time because I am ONLY watching the baby’s all day
@✨Wis 🇭🇹 honestly maybe he doesn’t really understand what that really meant intake. I thought that I married the type that would be a great support too I am realizing more and more that’s not the case at all. I just wanted to know if I am asking for too much.
@Shannon that’s emotional abuse right? I have really been thinking if I made the right choice
My husband understands and appreciates how much I do for him so he could focus on work and providing for us. He thanks me every single day and says he appreciates me. He also has been thanking me for carrying his children as I’m doing all the same SAHM duties heavily pregnant with a toddler running around
That is not right. Childcare is a job. Cleaning is a job. Cooking is a job. Grocery shopping and meal planning are jobs. And I’m sure there are other things that you are doing too that someone gets paid to do as a job. No one can do all the jobs well at the same time.
Yeah this is VERY odd to me. My daughter is 3 months so even younger than your baby. Theres no excuse. The bond he has is 💩.
Yes it’s emotional abuse. And if he’s doing that I don’t believe he’ll stop there. Do you have any family to rely on?
What a man thinks being a "provider" is": go to work, pay bills. That's it.