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I have to second Chloè!
I think because I know it would turn into an argument. I often get back “well you go out” but I’m not sure when he wants me to do that around all his activities.
Why don’t you start planning outings and tell him in advance?
Why don't you try planning together how you are spending the weekend? I don't go out as much as hubby but he always asks me before he books anything in an evening or on the weekend. Now we have 2 children especially, he knows they are just as much his responsibility as mine. We agreed to equal time out (though I don't organise mine much atm) but if he's out Saturday you should have time on Sunday.
I do have things planned. Just no where near as much as him. Like I said I think it’s because all his things have landed 4 weekends in a row. Christmas party’s x2 and other things. The things I care about (my brows🤣) I usually do mid week and can’t because he’s at work
Book something with a friend and do what he clearly does and just tell him you’re doing it. But also talk to him. Make him realise he needs to put in his fair share before you burn out! I get my nails done once a fortnight. I don’t ask my husband if it’s ok. I book it and tell him he has the kids! If I want a shower in the evening, I tell him I’m going for one no debate! I’ve booked a 2 hour massage for my birthday and just told him when it was booked for. If He can go to the football and play on the PlayStation then it’s only fair it works the other way too!
Yous are all right, I need to be more like him and just go. I’m a first time mum so I’m not used to all this, we have a shared calendar etc now. I’m used to my own freedom and not worrying about who’s having the baby or if he already has plans
Why don’t you put your foot down? I see so many posts about men doing fuck all and still doing everything they used to before baby arrived and the women’s life changes 100%. Don’t get me wrong the women’s life does change more but my husband literally takes care of most things when he gets in from work (I have 2 kids under 2.5) and he would never go out 2 weekends in a row.. or I wouldn’t let him if he wanted to, it’s not fair on you.