Feeling really guilty 😭

I was served my notice from my flat & I've got a house sorted, with a garden etc. It's a fresh start. I've slowly been doing the house up over the 28 days I had to leave the flat like when my daughters been at nursery/at her dads. We moved in Monday. She absolutely loves her new big girl room (she's 2 & a half), loves playing in the garden and loves the new walks we get to take our dog on. She's been going to nursery and telling everyone about her new house and her big girls bed. She went to her dads yesterday and he's saying I've made her ill with the move, she's not herself, really clingy and I've f*coed her up by moving her. She was sick throughout the night and has been lethargic today. She's been absolutely fine with me all week, hasn't asked about her old home or anything. There was a notice on the nursery app saying there was bugs going around & both staff & children have been poorly so keep children off if they're poorly. i explained this to him and he said its the move thats caused it. I feel so guilty that this move has now made her poorly. is there a connection?

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Sounds likes he’s hating!!! Ur doing good for ur daughter and he’s being a hater!

Highly doubt it’s related to the move if she’s been happy with you all week and it’s unlikely that would cause her to be physically sick anyway! Definitely seems like she’s got a bug considering there’s loads going round at the moment! X

@Zaza we have social services involved and have to do 3rd party pick up. I let his mother know on Friday when she collected that going forward we'd have to meet at the park as we are in the process of moving. 10 minutes later my social worker rang me asking if I had moved and I said I'm in the process of yes and she said I didn't have to give him my new address. His mum then started sending me messages saying since he has parental responsibility I have to give my address and sent screenshots from Google saying I have to let him know where I'm going 🤯 In my heart of hearts I know it's not the move, it's him loosing control of me and knowing where I am which is why I'm being blamed for making my daughter poorly.

@Jess I genuinely think it's just a bug because of the nursery update! X

He's definitely trying to manipulate you..

Stay strong you don’t have to give him ur address! This is a fresh start for u and ur girl! Don’t lets him and his mum ruin that! 💕

Clearly she has a bug…. A house move doesn’t make a child ill !

No connection at all. Well done for sorting out the new home for you and your girl, and I hope she gets over this bug soon x

He just sounds jealous so he’s doing everything he can to make you feel bad. Trust me I know his type my oldest sons dad was the same

This is an attempt to make you feel bad, don't let him win. The social worker knows your rights, and if she says you don't have to tell him where you live then she will back you up on that if he continues to try to convince you that you should tell him. If it helps, you could ask her to put it in writing so you have physical evidence to counteract their random Googles, or you could ask her to tell them in writing herself and copy you in so they can't say you're making it up. Because he's losing power and honestly having a strop about not getting his own way, he might even be gearing up to say to you that he "needs" to see where his daughter is living so he can be sure that it's clean/safe/not making her ill just so he can find out where you are which is also not something you're required to do. If he tries to pull that, use the social worker again. Have her check your home and confirm to him that it's safe, she's the professional in this situation and he has to listen to her whether he likes it or not.

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