Constantly asking to babysit

A few days ago I made a post about how my stepdad is constantly asking my mom when my baby will come over and spend the night. Honestly she’s spent the night before because I used to work overnight but since I don’t anymore I don’t see a reason to have her there, also if they want to see her. They can come over and see her.. in my presence without her having to spend the night. I kid you not in the last week my mom has told me how my stepdad keeps asking her to come get my baby and now it’s getting to the point where I’m like why? Like now it’s NO. Today he asked me himself when I’m going to let her go over and my baby’s father was sitting here as well and we both are looking at each other like why does he keep asking for my baby to come over? It’s weird. Anybody else experience someone constantly asking for your child to “spend the night” he even asked can she stay from thurs to Sunday like no tf? Why would I allow that? ESP since that’s the Only Reason he or my mom call me, only to speak to my baby.

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Does your child like your stepdad? And do you have a good relationship with him ?

@Taya honestly no not really. She usually ignores him when around him . Also not close really, he’s been my stepdad since I was 2. He’s 70 and my mom is 42. He was closer with my brother because he met my mom while she was pregnant with my brother.

Gross. You're in the right to say NO

Oh hell no, that's just weird.

Do they have other grandkids?

@Dana no. Just her. My brother died in 2021 at 18. I’m the only child now and she’s the first and only grandchild. But also he has no biological kids, he has 3 “daughters” from all his previous wives. Me and two others who don’t have kids yet.

What’s making it even more annoying is my mom keeps suggesting getting my 1.5 year old some “big girl panties” all because my daughter keeps taking off her daughter and showing signs to potty train. I’m like no? I’ll get her pull ups but why panties? No

Aww I know it seems weird (it does to me too) but it also might be harmless. I think they just wanna love on their grandbaby. Especially if he doesn’t have any kids or his own. Was he weird to you growing up?

Well you totally can start undies at this age it's just a commitment to the parent to learn their cues and encourage language so the kid can tell you when they have to go. I'm doing that rn. Have been since 15months

@Alina oh yes, I have bought them for her but it’s the padded ones. I think for me it’s that she always is trying to show my stepdad things, for example, I buy her a new dress and show my mom on FaceTime. She will walk into the other room and say show papa your dress , spin around for me and do all these things. Like why. It’s constantly, also like I’ll call my mom and show her how my toddler keeps taking her diaper off and what I do, she will RUN in the other room and say look at her taking her diaper off like girl why do you keep trying to show him stuff when I’m calling YOU for advice not so he can see

Keep your daughter close to you. If you feel in your gut that his behaviour is odd, go with that & keep her close.

I totally agree with @Elle if they want to see her with your presence that is fine (I guess) but I would never let my daughter to sleep over their house or anybody else. You can’t trust anyone nowadays.

Trust your intuition!

Girl, I said in ypur previous post and now this one. IT IS WEIRD. WEIRD AF. If I were you I would never leave her alone with them again. Let along overnight. Inappropriate touch can happen in many ways and it only takes 1 min...

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