Partner after birth

So I just had my little girl 11 days ago via emergency c section. My partner was amazing for the first few days waking up in the night to help me with feeds. Showering me with words of encouragement. Being helpful when It came to house work or any lifting I needed even helping me shower etc. but the last few days this has completely flipped he wakes up muttering fuck sake, grunting ect. We've also had his SD (9) literally since the day after I came home which is not what I wanted. He has two weeks off and she's going back to her mum's the day before he's back to work. He's been spending more time chasing around her school runs after school activities ect than being able to spend bonding time with his newborn. It's really starting to get me down. Especially since he helped so much at the start but now it just seems like me and my daughter are an inconvenience. Anyone had something similar? How can I even speak to him about this I know for a fact id be greeted with the fact he's been doing jobs around the house so that's good enough.

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He’s probably overtired and so are you and emotions and hormones are high as your body adjusts. I think an honest chat of “I think we are both really overtired” and see how it leads. I’d suggest that he has a full nights sleep and then you do the same the following night to help one another out. Xx

I had a c section, partner helped out whilst I was in hospital and then when we got home I was doing everything even having to lift our 1 year old and take her to bed because he wouldn’t, he went to work 3 days later and left me to look after his 2 children (with his ex) and our toddler and our newborn all on my own this was 1 week after a section. I completely feel your frustrations, and if he’s anything like my partner if you speak to him it will just go in one ear and out the other I’ve found men like this can’t be told 🙃🙈

Absolutely not! This has already crossed my mind, we’re due baby number 2 during the summer holidays so obvs dad will be off for the 2 weeks to help/ bond. He has a boy who will be turning 7 similar time. HE WILL BE OFF TO HELP ME AND BOND WITH BABY. He can come round his usual amount but wouldn’t be constant. When he’s round he’s already all focused on him, we also have a 1 year old - will be 19m when baby born. She’ll need more attention too. I would just tell him how unsupported you feel

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