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but its ok i relate to you and i understand you. just keep doing what works for you and do it at your own pace, don’t let dad upset you!! you’re doing a great job 👏🏽 💕
A lot of us FTM go through this this was me and my child’s father. We’re 5 months in now and it’s gotten a bit better but I still cuss his insensitive ass out. Maybe it’ll help him talking to another woman in his family I was blessed to have my child’s father sister advocate for me. Your instincts will tell you what’s right. And as parents I’m learning we both have different ways of doing things. That baby grew inside of you and came out of you if you want to pick up your baby while she’s up he can kiss your ass. And when you need a break you get dress and leave him with the baby even if it’s for 10mins yes. I also learned they talk so much shit but end up folding like we do. It takes time.
@Anayia this 💯‼️
@Sequoia in the beginning we used to fight bad and I would cry so hard but then one day I was like fuck this. I got a c section wasnt numbed properly and felt them cutting me and people gonna have audacity to tell me to not pick up my baby !? Yeah hell no. I’m doing as I please and father you can either follow suit or figure out your own way but don’t guilt me into doing what my instincts are telling me to do. And he eventually realized that we both do things differently. The only thing is when dad is parenting try your hardest not to step in so they can actually learn. I’m still having a hard time with that but I’m learning
@Anayia we used to bump heads more before baby got here, i would cry alot as well. but yeah ofc im gonna pick my baby up or have him by me, like this is my FIRST baby (dad has 2 other kids) im gonna learn and love him as much as i can cause he won’t be little forever 😭 and when it comes to dad parenting i have to step in because i feel like he’s too rough with him at times and he’s always like “he’s a boy, he needs to be tough, you making him spoiled” and all that other bs but he doesn’t understand that he’s a little human he can’t handle all that..so yeah thats where we disagree the most at
@Sequoia see this is both of our first baby and that’s his dad mentality as well. Research shows that men are more rough but it actually is good for the baby that’s why we parent different. I feel like that’s why I have a hard time letting my son dad just parent he lives to jump scare him and yell while he’s crying and spin him I be like stop doing that shit to my baby. But to be honest it’s actually good for them if it’s done safely. As for spoiling I believe there’s no such thing. I’m told that by everyone and they again can kiss my ass in a macys window lol. You got this mama. What’s funny is after my baby got his first cold and had mucus in his chest I started flipping him around tossing him from side to side just cause I was losing my mind at the fact I couldn’t get the mucus out of his chest. It eventually went away and my baby loves it lol
i didn’t know that was good for them, thank you sharing that, i’m still gonna be triggered lmaoo..but yeah i don’t believe you can spoil babies either! i’ll try to let dad do what he does without interfering i guess 🙄 thank you for sharing your experience with me mama 💕
why he sound like my child’s father lowkey lol don’t never wanna get involved until you do something they don’t agree with 🙄 i cuss him out almost everytime but if its been a long day i just ignore him. anyway you’re not a bad mother ofc and if baby needed a change then we can’t help that. but mom its ok if baby is up in the crib, she will probably talk herself to sleep. and if you’re crib training it will help to leave her in there as long as you can especially if she isn’t fussing. it teaches her independence and that even though we’re in the same room we especially don’t have to be under each other all the time.