Struggling to adapt to nursery
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From a nursery teacher - I know it’s hard but please just give it time, he’ll benefit so much in the long run. He also has a lot going on right now with a newborn at home so understandably just wants his safe space at home🥰
Has he started on 30 hours or has it been gradual? We literally started on half a day and worked up to 2 days
@Rachel oh no!!! Bless you 😭 I think this would be us but thank goodness he already knows 2 of the adults in the room as they're mums that he used to see every week at play group. I've had to stop doing drop off as it was too difficult for him, he did much better if my dad took him but that doesn't seem to be helping anymore either 🤦🏼♀️
@Amy thank you 🥹 I have known his nursery teacher for like 10 years and know he's in such good hands he just breaks my heart. I loved school and really want to see him thrive there too
@Mel s he's gone straight in at 30 hours, he was so excited and loved the first few days in January
I'd reduce hours for a bit and work back up
I agree with @Mel s my little one was doing three full days at nursery and moved to full time pre school in January and he is absolutely knackered! He loves it but it is a lot for him - and he was already used to the three days! I’d reduce the days and build back up if he doesn’t need to be there to allow you to work! Hope it helps! It’s awful when they’re not settling ❤️
I think 0 to 30 hours is a huge jump. My little girl is very outgoing and I still only send her for 3 days, so we still get midweek quality time together and she has a break from school. They're still so young it's a long time to be apart
Agree with others that the jump from 0-30 hours is huge especially when there’s a huge change at home too! We started sending my son to school nursery in January, he only goes 15 hours a week and even that takes it out of him! He’s shown resistance some days but often calms once inside but I imagine he’d have a harder time if he were there for 30. Maybe have a chat with nursery and see if you could do more a phased/gradual build up? Perhaps just 15 hours a week (either spread as 2.5 full days or 5 morning/afternoon sessions) until end of this term then see where you’re at? Xx
We've moved to just afternoons but it's still too hard... He's just getting worse 🤦🏼♀️ I'm completely out of ideas and we're onto the second day of him completely refusing to go and getting himself into a state and no way of getting him there. I'm at a loss 😭
@Adele do they have a parents room there? Can you literally take him for an hour and you sit in the parents room so he knows you are in the building and build up from there? I feel like my son was so similar and it was just this fear of being left and reassurance that I would come back. We are now 2 months in and he is happy going in and cries when I collect him and he remembers I left him 😢
I have no advice but I’m in the same boat. Started sending him in January and he does 2 days a week. I’ve been called 3 times now to go collect him early cause he’s so upset. He clings to me at drop off and sobs and it absolutely breaks my heart. I’ve bought him a little ‘hug’ token from mummy and daddy to take each day and he takes his teddy in which helped for a couple of days but gone backwards again.