Found these messages in husband’s DMs
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Don’t let him sugarcoat or gaslight you, it is exactly what you think it is. Don’t also let him blame you for going through his phone, that is him trying to divert the conversation. You are not overreacting at all. I don’t want to tell you what to do but this is unfair on you or kid (s). This behaviour is unacceptable and should speak about it. How would he feel if you spoke to guy like this?
Omg no that’s a no ! Not only female friends are a no in my opinion! But these messages!! I am so sorry :( but he’s cheating physically or emotionally or both. That is not the way to speak to any “friend” but let’s be honest the whole she’s just a friend it’s old now they should know better. Go ape shit on him
If you want to commit murder let me know and I’ll come help. I am mad for you 😩
At best he is having an emotional affair at worst it's a full-blown affair either way I'm sorry you're being treated this way you don't deserve this, this man has no respect for you, he knows exactly what he is doing hence the password change, I'm sorry xx
This is 10000% cheating in my book. Maybe try couples counseling?
Yeah I was in the same situation he said he stopped talking to this one female friend after I found out he was texting her inappropriately and didn’t just hid it better so just take it from me whenever you’re seeing don’t go to him bc most likely he’ll just apologize says it doesn’t mean anything and do it again but just hide it better I’m just saying whatever route you go this is disrespectful to you and you don’t deserve any of that.
I would honestly go ape shit that’s not causal conversation especially the cringy pickup lines. The girl is barely responding back I’d maybe text her on your own and find out everything you can and then present all the evidence and call him out on his stupidity. He asked to have female friends just to do this shit I’d smack the crap out of him
yeah that’s a hard no. new friends are tricky in relationships bc a lot of ppl dont know how to be just friends and when there isnt years of friendship history it can get uncomfy bc the lines can get blurred and he sure as hell blurred those. im so sorry, what a dick
Regardless of the content of the messages, (which don’t look great btw!) he is aware you don’t like this and has taken steps to hide it from you, he knows he is in the wrong and doesn’t care enough to stop. I have a hard time if my husband speaks to me in a tone I’ve told him I don’t like, if this were happening he’d never see me again.
Yeah this is wayyyyy past friendship level
so op are you leaving this bum or what?
@Tiana oh 100% I’m still digging in to the messages and it gets worse LIKE WAY WORSE
girl bless your heart cause whew!! you dont need that anymore I hope everything goes well for you!!
Guys you know what FUCKING SUCKS this guy is currently away in basic training rn so I can’t even fucking speak to him omg idk if you guys remember but I posted a few months ago about him when he was away on an encampment and I was pregnant with his second child and he had abandoned me for 2 months this is where he met that girl and I’m really not liking what I’m finding in their chat during that time I stg I think it got physical
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Basic training for the military btw he’s obviously gonna cheat on me whilst away on deployments lol
@Domi 😭 I stg 💓
He is not in love with you anymore he is fishing for other women time to ESCAPE from this man
girl whether she’s here or there in a boat or in fucking space he still got you fucked all the way up now he can emotionally and physically do whatever the fuck he wants without you
Honestly the more screenshots there are the worse it gets, his intentions are very clear.. You say he is away right now.. if the property you're in is your house I would pack his stuff up and change the locks, this isn't just a little blip or a moment of weakness, it's proper chats and planning honestly I'm fuming for you what a scumbag! Xx P.s if you're married make sure you get as many screen shots and proof as possible so he can't lie if things come to an end xx
Nah sweetheart that “behave” comment tells you everything you need to know, along with his “ur always on my mind”. Open the box. Everything else is icing on the cake
He don’t sound married in those messages for sure! So tell him you’re gone since Hes acting single! Apparently Hes single!
Girl how have ya’ll made it to 6yrs cuz ur man isn’t ur Husband, ur man is for errrybbody! My mouth is on the geound from what I’ve just read cuz I can’t believe this man calls himself a married Husband cuz this is not how married men act. He is not that into u, please don’t let him keep disrespecting u like he has already! It’s time to send his ass back to the streets we’re he belongs. Wow, just wow. Some of these men are real pieces of work!
This is so bad ! Then how embarrassing 😹looks like she doesn’t even want him he’s just thirsty ewww! I’d leave him ! You don’t deserve that !
Girlll no u in the military ???Show his higher ups yall are married and that’s infidelity for sure he can get in a lot of trouble!Blessings to you 💗
Leave.
Leave. He’ll soon realise what he lost. Just DONT go back 😂
Nope. I’d be done with this. Changing his password is a red flag and then saying “ur always on my mind”??? No. If this was my husband I would lose total trust and wouldn’t believe any lies he says.
Girl leave, your worth so much better❤️
Men have hiding a lot lately. 1000% investigate girl. If you need help girl . I got your back. I love exposing men on thier behaviors
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Yeah fuck that, he'd be gone!
I’d change the locks, box up his stuff and stick a picture of it on that chat saying “Look what she’s done….”, that’ll put the message out there that you’ve seen, and taken action, without needing to speak to him and his 💩 anymore. Would love to see his face when he catches up and sees it.
Omg... Not sure what your housing situation is.. but me.. I'd be gone by the time he comes back and I would post all this messages on his Facebook " I am a liar and a cheater my wife deserves much better then me because I'm a shack of shit. Girl!!!!! Unless your going to leave don't bring it up cuz they don't change they get better at hiding it and they stop trusting you! I know iv learnt the hard way. Fuck that shit. I'm fuming for you!! Like really id be pissed those messages are not okay.
I would stay silent and plan your exit strategy...........then if you choose send him all your evidence
If y’all are married and he’s in the military, he can get in a lot of trouble if you report it. You even have proof. We’re a military family as well so if you need help, I can ask my husband how all that works. You don’t deserve any of that!
Chile it don't get any better
Thank you girlies for all your responses 💕 really does make me feel better having all your support. I sent him the ss and told him to contact me through family. It honestly gets so bad I don’t wanna share it here ofc he called me apologising bla bla but I live in my own home and I’ll be dropping his stuff at his mothers.. going no contact he can see his kids through her.
@Jocelyn thank you 😢🩷
I wish you the best please text me if you need any support or just anything I can help with🫶
This is really not okay at all he’s not just being a friend he’s flirting and letting her know he wants her she probably feeling herself w all that he’s sending her smh
I wouldn't mention these messages as you might not be able to re'check... But i would mention if he is happy in your relationship.. question what he wants .. or if he isn't wanting to continue what you have.. maybe that you feel he is more distant. If he says he wants to be with you and you find more, I would leave. And no these messages aren't OK.. seems as though messages may have been sent before. With the behave.
@Layla Caron 🥺 thank you ♥️
@Sara I did confront him but only because I had made up my mind about leaving him, there was a lot of other stuff I found as well..multiple girls, the timings, how he was treating me at the time..it’s all too much to look past
All the best to you and your future then x
@Sara thank you xx
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Goodbye to him!!
I don’t know how much of you are following this but
I had him blocked off everything and he contacted MIL and SIL to get me to speak to him so I did. To me he’s definitely sorry and understands his mistake. We do have 2 kids together.. I actually don’t know what to do at this point. I just know I’m hurt and scared of this happening again but he is the father of my kids
Tbh I’m not sure if I even love him or if I’m just scared to go it alone. As of now I’ve refused to take him back.
Oml I’m so sick of men right now .
It’s time to leave. He doesn’t respect you especially since this is a second chance. You deserve a man that wouldn’t even think about betraying you like this. I hope you can heal and move on from him mama💕