She’s driving me crazy

Rant incoming: I just entered my 3rd trimester, 29 weeks couple days. My MIL was always crossing boundaries before I got pregnant but it has gotten to the point where my phone is on DND all day, every day just to avoid her the past 8 weeks. We live in separate units in the same house where I don’t need to see her while entering or exiting the house. I try everything in my power to avoid seeing her.My husband knows. He brings down my packages, but doesn’t outright tell her to back off. She’s excited for a grandchild, ok cool, but she’s doing every inconsiderate thing. Im super uncomfortable with people touching my stomach and she just goes STRAIGHT for it. When I tell her no I don’t want her touching my stomach she starts going off on how it’s “her” baby and she’s the grandmother. She has people over every weekend, plays loud music which prevents me from napping or sleeping at a decent time when I’m already struggling with sleep. She called me 6 times yesterday 20 minutes apart. 3 times the day before. Don’t get me started on how many calls I got last week. I don’t even get calls daily from my parents like that, it’s EXHAUSTING. Why is it necessary to call someone that much?! She’s stressing me the hell out with all these calls. I don’t want to tell her to back off cause at the level I am at rn I might say some mean things. I’ve said all of this to my husband and I feel like he thinks I’m overreacting and doesn’t tell her to stop. I know for a fact when the baby arrives it’s going to be 1000x worse. She’s going to call me nonstop to see the baby, and quite honestly I don’t want her near us for at least 2 months. I’m stressed out now, I can’t even imagine how I’m going to be postpartum. I should be happy and looking forward to entering my third trimester but I’m so angry all the time, frustrated, and tired…. The feeling of people just wanting the baby (the result) but making every step difficult (the process) is so infuriating. Okay that’s all. Edit: I’ve already told her I don’t want her at the hospital when the baby comes. If this lady tries to take my baby away from me when I’m not ready…. We’re going to have a HUGE problem.

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Tell her to fuck off

Far to much

Really ur husband should. Be having a word with her not avoiding it exspesh with how ur feeling! X

Do we have the same MIL? No joke, my MIL would do the creepiest things and touch me when I asked her not to — but like force her hand down my stomach, unzip my jacket to touch me or come from behind me and touch my belly. It took all of me not to smack her. She would call and leave me voicemails asking about HER grandchild and she would do it in such a possessive manner too. All I can say is brace yourself because my MIL made my first year a living hell. I'm sorry you're going through this!

Oh god feel sorry for both of ures I have nuffink to do with mine since my wedding night thank fuck x

6 months ago

@Ellie-May My MIL and I have 0 contact now because it became so toxic and just not something I could handle while navigating being a new mom. She's now the victim and I'm the villain in the hell she created. She's 100% narcissistic.

Ffs @Nat bet u feel like a different person now tho don't u. Cuz I do. I feel alot better x

@Ellie-May Oh ya! At first I was so sad about the conflict but now I'm like F-it! This woman has no power over me or my family.

I'm glad u feel that way bbe xx @Nat

You and your husband need to set boundaries now and stick to them or she’ll walk all over you guys when the baby comes

You and your hubs need to get on the same page ASAP on rules for once baby is born. And he needs to step up and communicate the boundaries

@Katie Oh no no no, she’s walking nowhere except into a corner by herself LOL I will not stand for that. After getting pregnant I have had this thing where I don’t have a filter, and zero fucks are given when hurting peoples feelings. I’ve been biting my tongue for the sake of my husband but she’ll have a rude awakening if she keeps this up. I’m about a day away from waddling up to her and telling her to fuck off and cutting her out of our lives.

Good for you! We’ve been no contact from my in-laws for over a year now and I don’t think it’s changing anytime soon! My husband is completely on my side so hopefully yours is too!

@Nat how in the world did you not slap her away?! I wish I can have 0 contact. I’m sure I’m the villain when she talks to her friends and shit… do I care? No. Don’t fucking apologize for being loud one weekend with your friends and then be just as loud the next weekend. Or currently… do absolutely NOTHING all day and then pick the hours right after I come home from work to fucking vacuum. Bro….

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