To all the Non-Black women with Black men!!

I’m a black woman. My sis in law is white .. she’s never been with a white man. She said she’s always loved black and just not attracted to her own

@Justina oh that’s interesting! I understand the being attracted to black men… but not being attracted to white man considering she’s white herself is interesting to me. Hmm. Thanks for sharing.

She said it’s come from the fact that she tried black first and then that’s it . Probably because she’s never dated a white man before too

@Justina I see

As a black woman married to a non black man, I commenting cuz I’m curious to know the answers.

@Jasmin girl 🤣🤣🤣

I know this questions not for me (!) but maybe they just find them attractive? For some people maybe there’s more to it but you’ve said yourself you understand finding black men attractive so maybe it’s just that 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Sorrel like u said for some people there’s more to it…. Those are the people I’m hoping to hear from.. if there’s more to it…where does it stem from?

U know ur post reminds me, one day on this app. There was this post from this non black woman that asked if it was okay for her to sign up for an ALL black dating app. Cuz she loved black guys so much. I remember thinking dang, this mama loves black men so much she wants to sign up for an all black dating app. made Specifically for black ppl even tho she wasn’t black herself so I think some of these women just have a preference 🤷🏾‍♀️ I think she was looking for validation or maybe questioning if that was okay cuz a lot of us told her that it wasn’t bt then she started gettting mad & she said she didn’t see the big issue cuz her bestfriend is black & all her friends told her it was okay. So I was like then why are u asking all of us internet strangers if u don’t want to know our opinions lol cuz her close friends co signed for her then why does our opinion matter. Bt I told her if her black bf told her it was ok, then why did she need to ask some random internet strangers

@Jasmin the classic ‘my best friend is black’ line 🤣

I’m not sure those people will comment tbh!

Yes! She conveniently slid that in to her “arguement” so she can get a pass! I jus felt like she was trying to start a fight with random black women online & it’s didn’t sit well with me cuz Idk what she thot she was getting from it cuz we was jus telling her how crazy it looks & sounds. Like picture this; It’s like me a black woman going to an all white dating site specifically made for Caucasians & here I am inserting myself into a space that’s not for me bt “my excuse” for doing so is because I claim to love white men so much. Like whatttttt, thats weirdo behaviour, totally insane

@Sorrel I’m beginning to realise that 🤣😂 therein lies the real answer perhaps

@Jasmin some of them are convinced we (black women) are triggered by black men being with white women so like u said she just wanted to get some black women riled up! 🤣 do we care though? 🤔

It stems from my upbringing love me some black men

@Jasmin surely the men who have specifically joined an all-black dating site would be looking for black women?? I really don’t think she thought this through 😆

@Justina same here I’m half back and Mexican and have abacus been attracted to black men.

@Rose girl it’s exactly what I was thinking, I was tryna make it make sense. lol bt it jus wasn’t clicking for her, u know how some ppl be so delulu 🙄 u can’t get them to see the obvious. Poor thing

Girllll only if she wud have known that we don’t give a damn! Lmao she was definitely giving pick me 🙋🏾‍♀️ & very insecure

@Blissful Im just curious since “Mexican” isn’t a race what do u identify with when it comes to ur racial identity. Do u consider urself biracial, mixed, black, brown, white etc. and do u think how u choose to identity when it comes to ur race has influenced ur racial dating preferences?

@Jasmin I self identify on forms as black but when they ask if you’re Hispanic or of that background I also put yes. I sometimes put two or more races when filling out forms if that’s an option. I just found out through ancestry in 2023 that I’m half Mexican so I’m starting to say biracial now. The family that raised me still thinks I’m black but they know I’m mixed and accepts it but still think I’m black it’s weird lol. & no I don’t think it has influenced my racial dating preferences. My dad who’s Mexican always says that if I grew up around him I would probably date white or Mexican men like my sister who’s also half black ( different moms). I’ve tried dating Mexicans but never vibe with them.

I am wondering if my preference within my own race could help give you an idea of why? My country is probably 100% white because I've never seen any other race that actually lived there (some appeared on the TV but I'd imagine it wouldn't even amount to 1% of the total population). However we had different regions and every region had very different characteristics and very different accents to the point you could probably understand someone from a neighbouring country better than someone in your own country but a different region. My mum hated men, especially men from our region as she believed they were all violent perverts😅 and growing up that's actually all I saw (not sure if it was because that was what I was raised to keep an eye out for). So while most boys were roman-catholics, Croatian and had brown hair, brown eyes and darker tan, the only boy (my now husband) I let close to me was a blue eyed, mousy brown hair, pale skin Muslim 😅

I know of two white women who prefer black men and have kids with them. They’ve never been with a white man, it’s there preference

@Stella this is really interesting!! So although you married a white man (same race as you) you went for the complete opposite of what you were surrounded by and familiar with growing up. Thanks for sharing this!

@Sam no one said it wasn’t a preference. This a post trying to ask why or how non black woman can have a preference for black man when they are not black themselves. Were does the preference stem from? I’m married to a non black man and even I have to question were my preference or my Husband preference comes from.

@Sam I’d love to understand deeper as to why they prefer black men? Because every man is different right… so what is it about black men that would make a white woman only want to date black men and not even a nice looking decent kind white man…she has to have the black man! These are the women I’d hoped would respond and just shed light on where this ‘preference’ stems from.

E.g I prefer black men because I’m black and I love our men,our culture,our vibe the way we connect on a deeper level with eachother. But I’ve also dated very nice, smart, kind intelligent white men… so it makes sense my preference would be my own race but I don’t exclude other races. So the white women that don’t even consider white men and only want black men I wonder how come?! 🤔 anyway I don’t think this will get answered 😂 so we move on! Just a random thought not that deep.

Exactly. We all have preferences even wen it comes to dating bt I’m literally convinced that some ppl don’t question or ask themselves deeper questions on why or how etc. I like to understand ppl, & their perspectives, learn & thing or two so I like getting deep. I love topics that don’t have a wrong or right answer, jus opinions & thots. I really appreciate ur post & everyone sharing X

How would you expect a white woman to answer tho? I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t know either that’s just who they are attracted to? I get the question of course

@Justina 😂🤣 she went through the statement once you go Black you never go back 🤣

@Kayla she literally did she loves it here

I think some fetishise black men and that’s where the problem lies. I’m attracted to black men mostly because I think they are physically beautiful and due to my culture I feel like our cultures gel well together. There’s a mutual connection there. To me it’s the same as preferring a blonde or dark haired man. Just to add…I haven’t only dated black men.

I realised all my exes were different white mixes (British/Latino, British/Greek Cypriot, British/Iranian, British/Italian I have NO idea why I just fancied them like anyone fancies anyone and then found out this random common trait they had (they also all had daddy issues) and THEN I met my fiancé who is Black, the only Black man I have ever been with and the last man i’ll ever be with, we met, worked together and I fell in love and realised he’s the most beautiful man on earth. One thing I do know is that I have never been attracted to men with blonde hair and blue eyes, the only thing I can think to that is that my biological dad has them and we don’t get on at all, he was a terrible father and husband to my mum so maybe that has inspired my preference for men from other cultures?

This question isn’t for me as I’m mixed and not with a black man however… when you said about not being interested in your own race I semi have that issue… I am half black & white and I have dated black, mixed, oriental but you would never find me dating a white person🤦🏽‍♀️