How would you feel? Do you think he loves her at all?

I look after our daughter most of the times, I even cosleep with her and my partner spends very little time with her, usually in the evening while I am making dinner. And while she is with him, she screams a lot. She is not a good sleeper either. But she is a baby after all. Many times he has said that “she depresses me”, “she is an awful child”, “she is killing us”, “she is destroying our lives”. He thinks our daughter who is not even 10 months old needs to be more independent, while his 10 year old son can’t wipe his bum without his help. And he never has said anything bad about his son, although I think he is very rude and spoiled child. I feel he doesn’t love her enough. What do you think?

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Oh dear, this is awful. It really doesn’t sound like he loves your daughter. Thank God she has you to protect her 🙏 Unfortunately, some people don’t have the capacity to love unconditionally even their own children, their hearts are poisoned and there isn’t much you can do about it. I hope his attitude isn’t affecting how you feel about your daughter? xx Sending you and your little baby girl a big hug 💗

do you know if he was the same way with his son as a baby? men can get depression too, and he may be experiencing that?

@Kelsey he keeps comparing them. He keeps saying his son was such a good sleeper and was a very good baby in general. He has depression and he is on antidepressants, even before she was born.

@Jessy thank you. Yes, that’s awful. Every time he says something like that, it just makes me upset and it breaks my heart. I adore my daughter and love her more than anything. ♥️

I’m so sorry this is happening to you and your daughter, neither of you deserve it. I understand his depression may be playing a major role, but my friend’s mum went through something similar with her ex husband. He just preferred his son over his daughter, he was always comparing them, and has only now started to realise how wrong he was to do that 21 years later. I’m not saying that’s what is happening, but I want you to be prepared if this continues xx

I would suggest he speak to his therapist on changing or increasing medications, whatever he is on now seems to not be working anymore. maybe add talk therapy too

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