in England
Not wanting to live with my boyfriend
I’ll try and make this as short as I can…
Me and my boyfriend got together in September and then found out we were pregnant in October.
We don’t see each other often, once a month for a weekend or week if I book time off work.
He lives in Ireland and I’m in England. He wants to move in with me when the baby is here and split his time between my house and Scotland where he works but I really don’t think it’s a good idea us living together.
Our communication isn’t great, small things turn into big things quickly to the point where I find it easier not bringing stuff up which I’ve told him many times
I just don’t think it will be good if we live together because he’s very family/friend oriented and I prefer my own space and if he moves in with me I don’t know how he will cope not seeing his family & friends often and how I’ll cope having him around all the time
I have bought this up with him which ended in us saying we will have to get on with it but I genuinely don’t see it working.
Baby is both of our firsts
Any ideas?
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You and baby will be his family. If. He’s showing willing then maybe accept it and try. Might be worth getting some counselling before baby is here just to help the communication on both parts and help set boundaries and expectations etc.
How about you suggest him come up for a weekend and trail it, then tell him that it is too stressful for you and you need all your energy on yourself and baby. If you don't want to live together you don't have to put up with it just because you're having a baby together, I can understand that it is a difficult conversation to have but you need to do what's best for you and baby
I mean, you're going to have a kid with him, so I think you absolutely have to give it a try!
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I think you should give it a try, once the baby comes along you might just appreciate having someone there to lean on or to give you a hand with things, living with someone else is hard but I also think it’s important for your relationship, if you want to stay together and build a family xx