Daycare Help

She sounds like she’s traumatized. But it could also be that she’s not used to not being at home with you 24/7 and needs some time to adjust. Does this daycare have cameras? I would look into making sure they’re not mistreating her. This is why I refuse to put my child in daycare until they can verbally communicate to me what’s wrong or so they can tell me if they’re being mistreated :/

It could just be her age and unrelated to daycare also or she is adjusting to a transition in her routine. My son (2 years, 3 months) started acting like this a few weeks ago and he's never been in daycare. It seemed to happen overnight, but he will have tantrums over little things and sometimes it is hard to calm him down until he just goes through it for like 15 minutes. It's been more frequent too. Something to consider.

Sounds like she’s having a hard time adjusting, maybe she feels abandoned and doesn’t know how to communicate that and is also having a hard time being around strangers. Kids take each others toys, hit and bite, who knows what happened there that was traumatic to her, even something that’s not a big deal to us can be a huge deal for our little ones. I would talk to the teachers and see what they have observed and also, yes, look at the cameras if they have them. It could be just this huge change that she’s adjusting to or it could be that she’s not being taken care of properly or both. Is she going every day? If so, maybe you should try and reduce the number of days/hours she’s there if possible.

I think it’s normal for starting time away from you. I would behave great at school and then let it all out at home with my safe people. It sounds like you are her safe person and she is communicating she misses you and this is hard. Maybe try to give her one on one time in the morning if you can- even if it’s just snuggling and reading a book. Something that isn’t about getting ready and out the door. I know that is tough but might help. It sounds like she is just struggling with the transition and needs more time.

Another thought- how is her nap at daycare? She might just be more tired than normal right now. While she might usually be up at 7am there is a big difference between up and home vs up and out the door at somewhere else all day. It could be a bit of that too.