Why am I like this..is it just me
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I know you're extremely overwhelmed but have you thought of therapy for yourself? Not that you're the problem but I was feeling like this back in '21 and those thoughts made me feel so guilty. Therapy helped me A LOT.
Sounds like you're very overwhelmed with having to deal with everything...which is very normal considering the amount you're doing! I'd try have a very open and honest chat with him
Therapy might be a good idea to either learn how to not take it out on your kids and learn to regulate or just a place to rant about what you can't change. It sounds like you've got a lot of stress though.
I’m a much better parent when my partner isn’t pissing me off. If we aren’t good then I’m not the best mum I can be. So I understand that this between you both could be affecting your ability to parent how you want to parent. If I were you I’d force him to stay home with the kids for a few days and get him to see your reality. Then hopefully he will understand. Also therapy is a really good outlet to vent out how you’re feeling. Hope all resolves & gets better for you 🤍 sending love 🫶🏽
Thank you ladies for not judging me. And I don’t want it to sound like my kids aren’t happy and I scream at them all day. That isn’t the case (I feel like I could scream at everyone all day though) but it does get the better of me for sure. I will look into some therapy. I think a lot of it aswell is I don’t like to argue when the kids are around etc so a lot of what I feel doesn’t get vented and I hold a lot of resentment and he is one of those guys that the next day after a thing will act like nothing has happened and I just can’t let it go like that..I think it’s just all built up 😕
No judgement cos I’ve been there too. I was 18 when I had my first child (she’s 11 now) and the stress and overwhelm I had was intense I had no help. I couldn’t help but to yell at times but it was mostly because of my internal anger and upset at the world/others/myself. Hence the recommendation for therapy. Also I’ve seen others comment, watching Super Nanny for tips with your kids. I’m gonna do the same when my 5mo gets to toddler age x
When I'm busy and my spouse or kids ask me to do "just one small thing" I don't tell him yes or no, I tell them *when* I can get to it. Yes, I can get that thing down for you, but first I'm going to use the bathroom, change the baby, and put out snacks. When that time comes, I ask if they still want the thing. Sometimes they say yes, and I do it. Sometimes they say no or have already gotten it themselves. It's ok to tell your spouse no, even to small things, because your list is already full. He can do this stuff, he just doesn't want to. If there is something he specifically needs from *you*, you can offer to trade his task for something else on your list that will take a similar amount of time. I remind my kids often that I can only do one thing at a time and if I have to spend time cleaning up after them, I can't be doing more fun stuff like reading to them or pushing them on the swings... My 4yo offered to help do dishes earlier this week so I could get out a special toy for her. 😂
Guys…I came on my period today..I feel even worse about yesterday now..I was never like this before my period until after my third (who has just turned 1) wth 🤦🏻♀️ I feel like that explains the height of the inside rage.
Probably because he doesn't help. It gets old and overwhelming doing it all on your own. Ans repeating what you need from your partner all the time. Your Probably just over doing it on your own and having him in the house not helping