Made the most perfect friendship, only for it to fall apart?! Help!

I know the feeling :( I’ve had two close friendships end, I don’t think I did anything wrong but feels so hard keeping friends in your 30s. I tried reconnecting to both but neither were interested. Kinda feels like your grieving for the friendship you lost :(

What was the stupid thing you said if you don’t mind me asking? I had a similar thing happen to me and I’m not sure how to move forward

I think it depends what the stupid thing was? As what kind of advice people can give will be dependent on what actually happened. Like was the stupid thing that was said a hurtful comment or something else she may not be able to come back from?

Okay, to give some context, I'd always wanted to work at the organisation she works at and a job had come up in her team.. but she never told me about it.. I let it fester in my head until one day I was feeling frustrated that she hadn't told me about it so I applied to it without telling her and then said something stupid like "I thought you were supposed to be helping me to find a job not stopping me from applying to one" on text. She thought I was passive aggressive and said she needed space. How much space does one need?! I'm the kind of person who likes to sort problems out and then move on!I felt terrible immediately afterwards and I miss her so much now. We were literally messaging regularly and seeing each other every other week. I feel like I've lost a sister and it feels awful.

@Kayl ohh no, that's so awful.. I'm so sorry 😔 had you become close to them?

Hmmm..working with friends can be hard & awkward ruining friendships alone based on work ethic. She probably was waiting on a position to open up that wasn't so close. Tbh, your comment would make me want to take a step back, too. But I get it, it sucks & it hurts to lose friends. Hopefully, she comes around.

Hmm, I can understand why she didn't tell you tbf. My job is mine, I'm not sure I'd actually want my friends to work with me, for many reasons. Although, I do think she's being abit dramatic to effectively end a friendship over this, especially when you have clearly apologised many times! I hate to say it, but she quite clearly doesn't value the friendship as much as u do if she can let it go this easily x as shitty as that is x