Single Mom

Hi ladies, I’m kind of in a predicament. I am 36 weeks with a precious baby girl and I can’t wait for her to come into this world. If I’m being honest. I’m okay with it just being her and I and God against the world. A little bit of backstory on her father. We weren’t together very long before I got pregnant. I thought I really could love him because he was a man with a strong vision of a beautiful family and stability. I could only hold on to that vision with him so long before the distance came and I started seeing the personality of a man I was willing to cut ties with. In the 4th month of my pregnancy, this man tried to rape me. Yes, rape me while I’m pregnant. We had stayed away from each other after he would constantly insist on aborting the baby like it was his decision. He could leave. He told me he would and I truly think it was to hurt me but my sweet baby was my new found love and joy and that world no longer had space for childish, entitled little boys. The phrase “I got you and that pussy for 18 years”, was really what helped me stand strong in my decision to never be with him and figure this out the best I could on my own. . . Was I wrong? I don’t think so. The he came over after not seeing him for almost a month after saying that. I didn’t want to be touched. I wanted to rest and enjoy my home. This Evil thing decides to poke me with his shrimp and I push him off of me. He then continues to aggressively flip me over and start pulling me across the bed by my legs and try to take my power away from me. I hate him!!! Why do men think that women are property??? I fear for my daughter because all he does is drink and sleep around at this point. He hasn’t been with me at all after that happened and I love it that way. He constantly tries to insert himself. “I’m gonna go to the military so the bay can be taken care of you, you’re coming too” or “you’re stuck with me”. I would NEVER. He even makes assumptions is ever let him touch me and produce another child!!! I hate to be the person keeping him away from my daughter but he hasn’t shown me anything but how horrible he is and forever will be. I don’t want to do this alone but does that mean I should sacrifice my mental health and well being? I mean he won’t even take co- parenting as an option and he really has no choice.

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When I say for the safety of you and your babygirl do not let this man in yalls life. If he is already doing this it will be ten times more horrible after delivery. Do NOT let him sign the birth certificate hell don’t even let him be in the delivery room. He tried to rape you and think you should let him around your baby girl.. r u okay??U should have gotten a restraining order against him that day

@Chey I don’t think I’m okay. I cry every night. Had bad dreams. And just want it to all be over. I want my child to have a father and I just hope she doesn’t hate me because that man isn’t the one.

When I say word for word of what u just told us what your babies father did and said makes me think we have the same baby daddy. I can’t believe there are really more men out here who act like this as if they didn’t come out of a woman

Omg I’m so sorry to hear what this man has put you through! That’s just awful, what a dirty pathetic excuse a man he is! Please contact the police and report him get a restraining order, keep any evidence you may have like text messages. Do not put him on the birth certificate, seek your family for support if possible. Do not let him in your home, block his number etc. but please please tell the police! Wishing you and your daughter all the best ❤️🙏

I’m so sorry you have to go through this.. I had to get a restraining order on my first bd.I wasn’t looking for a second one but it just happened and he is great father to both of my kids and soon to be husband.. what I’m trying to say is there is someone out there who will treat you and your baby girl right it won’t happen right away but I will just focus on you n bbg safety first❤️

@Mari wow. If you don’t mind me asking, what did you do? Yeah. I stopped dating him after he told me “all women are whores.” Knowing he came from one and his dad came from one as well. A strong black women. It’s just something they lack and can’t compensate for so they hate a women.

@Kirstie thank you! I’ve never been in a relationship or position like this before. I’m glad there are women who can help.

I honestly stopped trying to have any type of relationship with him. Since I’m currently pregnant and my son isn’t here yet. I don’t feel the need to talk to him, but I know he wants to be in his son’s life so I’m still debating on if I’ll let him around once he’s born. I don’t want my son growing up disrespecting women, because that’s exactly what his father does

@Mari let’s just both say no. There are mentorship programs and men development classes for a reason. Even some videos on how to take pride in yourself as a young man and that does include respecting woman.

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