Struggling

Is it an option to move in with him where he currently lives? I can imagine you’re also feeling isolated without your car! Is he taking steps to get his fixed? You’re in the newborn trenches and we’re not designed to handle all of that alone so the way you’re feeling is completely valid! It won’t be like this forever 🤗 is it possible for your mum or his mum to come and help out? Sending you hugs!

So I do not have my baby yet so I can’t speak on the feelings you mentioned but it definitely sounds like you need way more support. Being a mom is a lot of work but you can’t completely lose yourself in the process. Sounds like you need a break too. I hope some moms come into the comments who have had their baby for some better insight than I’m able to give. I really hope you are able to get some time for yourself because everyone deserves that honestly. Your baby needs you but you also can’t fully be there for him if you aren’t doing well yourself. Best wishes to you and all the love.

First thing first I’m sorry you’re going through that and feeling that way… I relate some for sure in the past. Doesn’t sound like this arrangement is working for you. secondly you need to get ur car back. That way you and your baby can go to playgroup at library or walk around the mall or play a play ground. If he’s not helping you with the baby or making time for you then he doesn’t get to use your car? Whose name is it under? If he wanted to, he would. It’s unfortunately the case for a lot who are out of sight out of mind with their kids. Having a job is obviously impossible but if it’s his only priority and you have no schedule with him set in place he needs to return the vehicle and start paying child support zz

i’m so sorry your going through this, it sounds like your going through a lot and you don’t have the support you need. i struggled with my first daughter which the trauma i went through, i took myself to the doctors to get the help i needed to be the best mum i could be. i went out and got fresh air when it got hard, put some head phones in and just walk baby should fall asleep (i know it’s not a break but sometimes as mums it’s the best we can get) dad also needs to help out too there’s so much pressure on you its hard to deal with post partum is rough if you want to rant about anything and everything just drop me a message xxx

I wonder if you might have ppd. I had it really bad to the point where I didn't want my baby I couldn't bring my self to feed him at times. Everything in me wanted to put him up for adoption. My Dr started me on some meds at first I thought it didn't work so I stopped taking them an the thoughts started again that's when I realized they worked lol