Do you judge or wonder why common sense lacks when it comes to relationships?

I'm not sure I'd say that thinking people can change is 'lacking common sense'. Most healthy relationships consist of both parties trying to get better about the things they struggle with. My husband tries to be better about planning romantic gestures, I try to be better about not needing to plan out all of our chores in detail 🤷‍♀️

I never want to sound insensitive bt I agree with u & I don’t understand either. Maybe why I don’t have many girlfriends cuz women love it when u sympathize or empathize with them when they are not making smart decisions bt I could never be that friend or that woman. When I was younger I used to think it was a like a lack education that made women choose certain things bt nope, maturing made me realize that smart ppl make dumb decision all the time. U will literally see the smartest woman with a master or PHD & that’s woman settles for bullshit with a romantic partner. Like make it make sense. Bt overall I think ppl at are just too afraid to be alone. It all boils down to that. Sometimes peoples fear of abandonment far out weights their survival skills of self preservation. Ppl would rather learn to accept breadcrumbs from the ppl who claim love them bt we are never willing to give that love we so badly from others to ourselves!

And also ppl need to learn that no ones gets to choose the family we are born into. So we can’t control the love we get from our parents etc bt u can damn well control who choose to allow to love u in a partner. I never understand when ppl aren’t able to choose ppl who wud treat them the way they want or shud be treated. Like u said a lot of it just lacks common sensen my sister calls me everyday to complain abt her Husband, like she did with the man before him & the other men before that, & she keeps giving these men chances & babies & I jus don’t get it. Like u know what u deserve bt why are u still there?

They have hope 💁🏻‍♀️ they’re hoping he’ll change. They’re hoping she can change HIM. Like a post on here the other day she has a 3yr and 1yr and he sleeps at 6pm every day and she’s overwhelmed and frustrated and I commented, don’t have sex w him again ever. I can’t have sex w someone w as lazy and annoying as that, and risk another baby when he’s doing shit all already and she’s basically a single mum already. So why should a man like that get the satisfaction of sex on our side when he’s not even making us happy TO have sex w him. Like, huge ICK.

Some people rather be in a bad relationship than be alone.

Common sense lacks in everything not just relationships.

I try not too BUT when you read the posts that say stuff like “he’s always had anger issues but…” like if you know someone is like that why have a baby with them? But I keep that to myself 😂

@Brittany I agree but once one side contantly lets you down or cheats or constantly does the same thing you hate.. idk why they think it’ll change after they allow him to get away with it for the whole duration of their relationship

@Jasmin did your sister tell you why she keeps giving them chances? Have you ever suggested therapy or have she been single in between relationships to be able to focus on herself and find out what she really wants?

@Kellie I agree!! That’s it as well. Idk how they are open to sex with their partners are not helping with at all with their kids. That would irate me so much and it’s a huge turn off

@Emilie I finally learned to scroll and not say anything. I’m sick of seeing a post that I read as 1+1=2 and somehow they read 1+1=5. It’s not as complicated as they make it, maybe love is blind idk

Omg my sister turned 35 this month & she has always been in therapy since she was 22. The reason why she gives him chances is because she says she is married. Lmao. 😂 so she has to keep going to make the marriage work. Bt ultimately she is too afraid to be alone even tho she is already a single married mom cuz her Husband cheats & drinks all day & he can’t keep a job! She is literally the man in her marriage. She calls me everyday to complain abt how tired she is. Bt obviously not tired enough to leave that man. Honestly I just don’t get it!

Also alot of women in family don’t know when to leave relationships. So they stay in those toxic relationships longer than they shud! I think a lot of women don’t understand what a relationship deal breaker is. Cheating & abuse etc. there are so many deal breakers in relationships, like ppl think those things can be forgiven etc bt even if u forgive, ppl shud know to break up when those things happpen in their relationship cuz the relationship is not longer healthy & there is no repairing, the only thing to do is to leave bt ppl don’t leave cuz they think they can forgive or tolerate those certain things bt they don’t know that they don’t have to put up or forgive infedelity or abuse etc those things are not “normal” relationship problems they are toxic relationship problems Convincing ur self that eventually “all Men” cheat in relationships is why I think these women don’t think they deserve better. I’m always telling my sister that there are some men out there that don’t cheat