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Am I wrong in expecting my husband to prioritise our baby and I as his family? His family have been non existent with our baby we’ve seen his sisters twice (our baby was born in October). His mum we’ve seen twice etc etc. I said to him how I’m excited to do his first Father’s Day, we then got on the conversation of Mother’s Day which id totally forgotten about. He then said how he needs to prioritise his mum for Mother’s Day because im not his mother….. I said it would be sad because it’s also my first Mother’s Day and I’d like to be with my little family! Then also went on to say how for Father’s Day his family would be disappointed if he wasn’t there to celebrate with his dad. Am I wrong in feeling like he’s prioritising his family over us? 🙁

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Surely you can all spend the days together? I’d agree it’s both your first mother and Father’s Day so should be celebrated together but don’t think it should be a choice like one or the other so not sure why he would prioritise either? Hope you get it sorted and enjoy your first Mother’s Day! X

Your feelings are totally valid. I’m of the mindset that your own family (partner/children) come first before anything else, but sadly a lot of people don’t think that way (my husband included 😅). I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all ❤️

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I would be upset with the statement “I need to prioritise my own Mum as you’re not my Mum..” In my opinion, that’s not an ok thing to say. You are his child’s Mum and you need to be recognised for that too. I think both need to be a priority on Mother’s Day, as I would certainly still be making an effort for my Mum on my first Mother’s Day, and I’d expect my husband to make an effort for both me and his Mum. Maybe given that it’s our first one, we should be prioritised a bit more. But bottom line, both you and his Mum should be prioritised together, however he makes that work. This may just mean that he’ll have to sacrifice other things over that weekend, to ensure that all/most of his focus goes on you and his Mum, but fairly. This is just my opinion! The way he treats his Mum is also so important. If you both have a son, he will teach your son how to be a good son by also being a good son to his Mum, ? If that makes sense 😂

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