Family in the delivery room!
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You're going to want/need people who you feel comfortable around and who are going to be supportive and of use to you. If you don't feel close to your Sister then I really wouldn't ask her to be there. If there's anyone else you would like to have there then ask them, if not, do it with just the 2 of you. It's a life changing moment, you'll remember it forever so don't let anyone spoil it. X
Hiya, unless your sister is planning to deliver the baby then I’m not sure what she can offer that the midwives can’t?? Especially as you’ve suggested that you’re perhaps that close. It’s not your mums decision, it’s yours. Have people there who you want to. Don’t be pressured into anything else or that will cause any additional stress on the day x x
Honestly, anything that will cause you additional stress or have extra things to think about while you’re delivering is just a no. Whether she has children or not - how is she going to help you in the room? As in what can she provide that the midwives and your partner can’t? I don’t understand why they’re pushing it so much to be honest. I just had my husband there and I was SO glad. It was such a long process and I was so vulnerable throughout I wanted to just relax and be able to be myself. Do not be pressured into doing something you don’t want to do - it’s just a precious day for you and your partner, don’t worry about anybody else!!
You do not have to have anyone in there that isn’t going to be helpful/there for you! You will be going through a really vulnerable time. Don’t cave to peer pressure from your mum about having her in there, mum should respect your wishes and leave it alone, it’s not down to anyone to decide who should or shouldn’t be there other than you. ♥️
Sorry but if she can’t drop you a single text to see how you are she sure as hell won’t be up to supporting you during Labour. I’d say to my mum she needs to shut up or she won’t be there either 🤣 xx
It would be a big fat no from me! Sounds like it will just cause you unnecessary stress. I would just say something like she is of course welcome to see the baby once you have settled post-birth and ready for visitors but (insert husbands name) and I want to do something as intimate as the birth just the two of us and the medical team, it will be too much for us to have more people there. But thanks for your input and you know she just cares/wants someone experienced there for you but the midwives will be on it. At the end of the day this is your choice.
Do whatever you feel the most comfortable with, you’re at your most vulnerable in that room. It’s also a special moment and would you want anybody else there? My mum is my absolute best friend in the world and personally I only wanted my partner in the room with me and will do for my next baby too X
I think you have every right to say no. From my experience having a partner there is more then enough and with the midwife and I had student midwifes there as well, it can get crowded even without the extra people.
For my first it was just me and my ex husband as that’s all we wanted there, with my second I had my mum there on and off as she had to go into work for a bit but was lovely having her there as well. This time I plan on having my partner with me and if my sister can be (she has a little girl) then I would like her there too but we are very close and talk every day as well as see each other all the time, more importantly it’s what I want. You shouldn’t have anyone there that you don’t want there x
Have whoever you want in the delivery room with you. Don't let someone else make the decision for you.. if you just want you and your partner do that x