Struggling so hard major rant
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Why would he move countries and join the military in another country when you are about to have a baby? That makes no sense. There being talk of him waking up in "6 months or so" is also incredibly odd. He basically abandoned you and his child. Why do you want to fight for a relationship he essentially left? This is a horrible situation, and I'm really sorry you are going through this.
@Hannah he was put in it when he was 18 as per family tradition. He had to be deployed. I may have not typed the full story but please next time refrain yourself. He did not abandon. His country is very strict when it comes to deployment. Once you are called, you must go. He didn’t have a choice.
It sounds like he did. Not all family traditions have to be followed. Once you join the military, it's basically a lifelong commitment. Now that he is injured, that changes things. However, he made a choice. That choice was to move to a different country to you and your child. I was going off the information you provided. Out of curiosity, what country is he from? Also, I'm confused. Most countries have the rule that once you are asked to deploy, you deploy. You make it sound like his country is different in that regard, but I don't think they are. Obviously, I'm not in the military, so I only know so much.
@Hannah He’s born from Russia. His family is very strict on traditions. If they don’t follow them, they are outcasted/disowned. He was technically already on his way to go back when we got the news of baby being here.
Incognito, was he up front with you about this when you got together? How do you feel about your child joining the Russian military when they are 18 if you have a son? That may be the case, but he still chose his country and family traditions over you. You now have to decide if that is a life you are willing to live and if his family traditions are things you are comfortable with your baby participating in. Again, I'm sorry you are going through this.
I am so sorry you are going thru that💔 I wish I could be there to hug you I know you really need it, I can’t imagine being in that situation but if I ever were to be I would bring baby to see him as much as you can make memories and hour or pray that he will wake up soon and remember who you are and he gets to see his baby maybe if he can’t remember his heart and your love will help him heal and bring back all his memories, idk if your family is around but it sounds like his family might be your biggest support right now, keep your head up mama ❤️🩹