Attention
Has anyone not gotten enough attention from their husband that they started wanting it from other people.. not cheating but wouldn’t mind being called pretty by others.. I honestly wouldn’t be able to tell you the last time my husband has said I was pretty/sexy anything like that. If I ever dress up or get my hair done or anything I have to ask him if he likes it because he’ll just look at me and not say anything.. I’ve talked to him about it before and all he says is, “you know I think you’re pretty so I don’t need to say it a lot. You know I’m not like that” which he used to be like that all the time before we had a kid.. it’s just hard feeling good about myself these days.. I mean not to sound full of myself but I am pretty, at least I used to feel really pretty.. I just need a place to vent I guess..
Show your support
Tell him you don’t care that he already thinks you’re pretty, it’s nice to be told and you’d like to hear it sometimes. Also the word “I love you” well no shit I love you, you know that, but I still say it. Tell him how much it means to you to have that validation, that acknowledgment.
And yes knowing each others love languages (and him knowing yours) makes a big difference also. His is a acts of service, quality time mine is also quality time but w physical touch. He had to learnt to touch me the way I wanted over the years since it doesn’t come naturally to him.
Trending in our community
Sounds like words of affirmation might be one of your love languages. My hubby and I both read the 5 love languages book a few years ago. He enjoyed it and it really helped us talk through what each other needs to feel loved - highly recommend!