How do you respond when someone says your toddler is “SO shy” 😒🙃

So annoyed with comments like these. My 3 year old is highly sensitive, so yes, sometimes she may appear “shy” to others but she’s actually just observing her surroundings first. She comes out of her shell and is very extrovert actually when she’s in the right environment or is on a one on one play date or if she’s had time to adjust to her surroundings. She comes alive when she’s observed first or not pressured into feeling like she has to participate.Anyways, the teacher at one of my daughter’s classes said “wow.. she’s SO shy”. Like ok? The teacher is really sweet but comments like that just irk me and I never know how to respond. How do you/ would you respond if someone said your kid was so shy? And you don’t want them to be labeled as “shy” because they’re not actually shy. I don’t want my daughter to have some label slapped on her that isn’t true and internalize that or think something is different or wrong about her. It’s ok to observe your surroundings first! Who cares!

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Just explain the situation to them. If they don't know, they'll assume. It's wrong but it's just how it is sometimes 😔

I just say my son is watching and learning.

Some people are too loud. There’s nothing wrong with taking your time to gauge situations and open up when you want to.

Yeah I usually say “she’s just observing her surroundings first” or something like that. I just wish people didn’t view “shyness” or sensitivity as such a bad thing. I know people don’t have bad intentions.. it’s just my daughter is so smart and starting to pick up on these comments when people tell her she’s shy. It’s annoying.

I always just say ‘she’s not when you get to know her’ and I just say she’s reserved to start with but is herself when she’s comfortable with someone.

"She's really observant. She watches everyone and then decides what she wants to do here"

I always say “she’s very observant, yes”

My daughter is exactly the same. She would first observe when we are out in the public and than once she is in her own environment will be a different kind of person. The other week we went out to a play group with my cousin and his family(little girl +2 years) and she is completely different. She would jump,throw herself onto the floor and explore which is completely different than what my daughter was doing. She was just sitting next to my husband and just watching. My cousin said that I should take her out more often to get used to. I got so annoyed and I said to him that she is a child who been going out daily and that’s not the problem. She just likes to observe first. Then he said it again and I just told him that my daughter is a little lady and she does not need to be like anyone else. I’m happy with the way she is(in public) At home she is a different person 🤣 So I would say to you…let her be and let them be. Don’t waste your energy on them. They don’t matter

“Everyone FEELS shy sometimes. She is warming up.” Shyness is a feeling not a way of being. I never call my son shy because I hate that word and I hate when people use it. A lot of kids feel shy and pointing it out doesn’t help. Just leave them be!

F.off maybe 🤔

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