I feel gulity…

Never let yourself be railroaded into anything you’re not comfortable doing or be made to feel bad for not feeling comfortable. Some people are okay with being away from their newborns and others aren’t, both are perfectly valid feelings. I wasn’t ready to leave my daughter overnight until was 6 months old, that was just me x

Can mom come help at your house? That might be nice for a night or two No effing way that baby is ready to be away from you. You should not feel guilty about that at all.

Nooooooooo.. that's so early. My babe is 5 1/2 months and hasn't spent the night away. I don't have plans to leave her any time soon either. She still feeds frequently in the night. I can't imagine putting that on anyone. It's great that she's thinking of you though! But don't give in to peer pressure. It's ok to set limitations.

My baby is 9 days old and I live with my in laws, my sister in law is in the bedroom next to me and she has had baby for 3 hours one night so I could sleep as baby was congested and I was just sat staring at her but I couldn’t have lasted more than 3 hours without baby 😭

At 3 weeks, no way I would have. We still haven’t and he’s 27 months. What we did do was have my mom there to help. She stayed a few weeks and we made sure she slept 8 hrs and at 6am nursing session - I would hand him to my mom and we went back to sleep. She would wake me when he needed to nurse but I would sleep otherwise for 4-6 hrs. This worked great for us. Everyone was sleeping and baby was one room away if I ever wanted him back.

I would never. Your mom can babysit during the day and you get a 3 hr nap in. That is helpful. Or she can go stay the night and help with a bottle if the baby is bottle fed. Personally. I couldn’t stand to be away from my baby. It would make me so anxious, especially at that age. You are the mother. Your baby only knows you as her security.

Thanks ladies for all the advice. Mums offered to stay at my house too but the thought of my baby girl waking up and I’m not there, breaks my heart. I know she probably won’t even realise and I know it sounds silly and I should be grateful for the offer of a full nights sleep, but she’s still so little 🫶🏽

What you should do is compromise and tell her that the only way you gonna let her spend the night at your moms is if your in the house in the next room. My husbands grandparents told me that they were going to take care of my son day and night as long as we stayed with them and I was hesitant but felt better since we were close to their room and when I heard him cry I did go and check on him just to make sure he was ok and that wasn’t even 3 weeks he was a 2 week old baby but after a night I felt a little better

Give in get a good nights sleep you will feel amazing! X

My girl is 3 and never stayed out anywhere just no need for it plenty of time when they are older x

If she’s staying at your house then I’d absolutely jump at the chance! Sounds like your mom is very thoughtful and wanting to help but I also totally understand how you feel. Even if she just got up for the one feed it would give you an extra few hours sleep and nothing is better for a baby than a well rested parent xx

Absolutely do not feel guilty. It doesn’t matter how good your relationship is, at 3 weeks old you physically feel it when you’re away from your baby. Unless you’re struggling and need a break then of course take the help. My mum has stayed here twice to mind my baby in 9.5 months. First time was December so 7.5 months old and I cried leaving the house. Obviously I’ve been out without baby but never overnight. It wasn’t that enjoyable and I couldn’t sleep x

Do not feel guilty at all, although I did allow my parents to watch her alternate nights we just had a room between us. It helped me for my recovery but I was always able to go get her through the night if I wanted to check in. But maybe your mum can help in other ways such as cooking cleaning and bathing baby or so?