Husband /Domestic help

Everyone has their strengths.. my husband is a bit of clean freak so without asking me, he does the night dishes and clean kitchen, he does the laundry and takes out the trash. I do all the folding, cooking, taking care of baby and toddler, sorting and putting away things. Maybe give him the tasks he enjoys and that way you don’t have to do everything.

What do you mean laundry by hand? And no, it’s never too much. Ask for what you need.

Definitely ask for what you need. Don't feel guilty about it, especially if it will give you more happiness in your relationship with your partner.

I would try to stop seeing it as ‘help’ and look at it like your husband doing his bit for the household. It’s completely couple specific and every household works/runs differently. You’re definitely not asking for too much! My husband always does the bins, does our toddler’s bath time (unless working late occasionally), half of the cooking (sometimes more), and we just generally split the household jobs of a weekend. I still do more than he does, but that’s a personal preference - it’s about a 65/35 split.

I agree with what is said in this video. If you’re on maternity leave or a stay at home mum, your primary job is childcare, for the hours your partner is at work. If you can get other chores done during this time, great (not always possible with a small baby!) But it shouldn’t be that all domestic chores and childcare fall to you outside of this time. While your partner is home, they should be shared equitably. Otherwise you are working pretty much 24/7 (168 hours) and your partner is only working about 40 hours per week. https://www.instagram.com/reel/C7PimVHB08-/?igsh=MTQwbm81ODgwOGhmaQ==

By hand? Why are you doing laundry by hand do you not have a machine? I would be taking clothes to the laundromat once a week if I had no machine, I ain’t hand washing shit. And that’ll be his job to take it to laundromat.

I ask for everything. If I need something done and I can’t do it right then, I ask him, I have no problems asking for help I ask him a million times a day to do things for me. But he does it, no complaints. He doesn’t huff and puff and makes excuses (like some men) Reach out more ask more. We are not superwomen and we don’t have 4 arms, I borrow his 2 arms. I have absolutely no guilt in asking for help, because we’re a team, it takes 2 to keep this household running smoothly and for me to be a happy mum and wife to give him what he needs also.