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So I have a baby with my ex and I currently have him blocked on everything and our daughter is gonna be turning 1 in just about 2 weeeks…should I invite him to her little birthday party? He’s called my mom a c*nt, fat piece of shit. I have him blocked because he doesn’t understand that I’m saving my daughter from his toxicity, his lies, everything. He lies about everything, he’s called me names, degraded me while I was pregnant, has no respect for anybody, he doesn’t even pay for her. In the whole 9 months she’s been alive, he’s given me a little over $100 and the only reason why he did was because “I promised to put him on the birth certificate “ which I didn’t. He was soooo adamant to get on her bc, and I feel like he has malicious intent for it. He has another baby 9 months apart that he don’t even get to see or barely gets to see. Told my mom that he got our daughter Christmas gifts, seen him 2 times since then and didn’t give her anything. Said he “forgot it”. He hasn’t seen her since New Year’s Day. His anger goes from 0 to 100000 real quick over little things. He blames me for everything. But I’m the problem, I’m the bitter baby momma.

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I wouldn’t open that door for him, your day will be so much more enjoyable not having to worry if/when baby daddy is gonna start acting c*nty If you feel he should see her for the first birthday, I’d plan something afterwards But I’d be really hesitant to let someone like that back in I’m in the same boat. I left him of the birth certificate because he is so nasty, he has only see his daughter 5 times, she’s nearly 8 months old. He has 2 other children he doesn’t see (10yr old he hasnt seen since 6weeks old) & (5 yr old he sees maybe once a year for 5-10 mins) yet im the negative/bad person

If he wants to be in her life, he should find ways to do that. It’s not your responsibility to do that for him. I do think you should leave one outlet open for him to be able to reach you to try. He can also go through the courts as well should he choose. It’s tricky because even though he treats you awful, which good for you for not standing for it, that is your daughters father and she’s the one missing out on it. No I don’t think you have to invite him to the party. But if you want too, that’s okay too. She won’t remember this birthday, just remember that as well. It’s a tough decision, you just have to go with what you can live with.

Don’t let him ruin your special little day for your princess. If his anger is so bad he might do something at the party which will not make it a lovely day for her anymore. She won’t remember it but you will, and it could ruin your memories. You could always arrange a meet up for him and her the day after or whenever is convenient if you decide you’d like him to see her for her birthday x

Yeah nah

Omg, your post is exactly what I am going through. I'm so serious, this has me wowed 😯

No don’t invite him

No don’t

Don’t unblock him think of u now and ur child! Heal and be a proud mum he can go through mediation the you have a set up care arrangements where it done in a civil environment. U protect your heart so u can be the best mum here if u want to chat im in the same boat its been 20th of December since I blocked him and im going strong. I’m healthily and mentally happy

Don’t invite him. My bd didn’t see my daughter since July and made the mistake of letting him come to my daughter’s first birthday in December. I thought he changed but nope. Tried putting on a show and acting like father of the year and didn’t pay for any of it. The next day he ghosted AGAIN. I know you’re trying to do what seems right for your kid but him not being there will be the best for both of you. Happy birthday to your baby girl 🤍

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