Thinking about moving in with family

Hi, moving back home to my parents at the end of March for the exact same reasons. I’m nervous because I’ve really come to enjoy having our own space as a family of 3 but I just remind myself it’s not long term and all the benefits like the extra support. I’m currently pregnant and will have 2 under 2

What do you mean share his stuff?

We live with my husbands twin and his parents are literally 4 mins away. We moved in here for the exact same reasons. Not going to lie it’s hard giving up your space and having to basically take over someone else’s house (let’s face it, kids take over everything) huge pro is we have a ton of support for when we’re sick, we’re tired or we’re just having a day. But I do miss my own home. Good luck to you!

I lived with my partners parents for about 8 months before I got pregnant and lived out of two rooms. It was miserable. They are wonderful people, never really complained or made a fuss about anything, cooked for us, brought us things, let us make ourselves at home but I couldn’t get over the feeling that I didn’t feel comfortable. Sharing the fridge, extra closet, living spaces, etc. I often had panic attacks about feeling homesick. Absolutely nothing against them at all it was just the fact that I shared a space that was not my own. I wouldn’t recommend it for longer than a few months, it got to my head badly.

Totally valid concerns. In terms of your nephew, though, extra cousin time could actually be super beneficial for your little one… unless your sharing toys concerns are because your nephew is mean/aggressive? Otherwise, this quality time could help establish social/emotional intelligence, including the skill of sharing! Even more than that, it could also set the foundation for a lifelong, strong friendship between cousins:)

I’ve live with my partners parents for 3 years now, I don’t have kids to know how it work out but I’m pregnant now and there’s been a lot of arguments. There good and bad sides to living with parents. Money wise it will be good to save. it will be hard for use and then to give up space, cooking I find difficult bc we never know what anyone’s having and some nights we might eat as a family other nights we each seperate. Sharing things around the house, I don’t buy to much so then they won’t complain that we’re taking over the house. Idk how his family is but they might want you to help with cleaning. It can also get overwhelming.

I moved home for a couple months in 2020 and it was a nightmare. Haha never ever again. Lol! But every family is different.

I would personally not move to any parents, I did it back when I 1st transitioned back to Cali for a couple of months. I only lasted 4 months. To be honest, if your rent is too high maybe moving somewhere cheaper might a better option, then while you are saving for a house put your savings in HYSA account that will accrue interest. This also depends on your situation income wise, the rates are so high right now so I would wait no matter what in buying a house unless you qualify for 3% down. Or you can move to any of the parents and re-evaluate how you feel after 3-6 months.

Just did an "emergency" move out of my parents. We lasted a whole 6 months. I no longer talk to my mother 😭

@Brittany his toys

A family friend did that recently. He moved into his wife’s parents house to save money for a house. Currently his wife became a whore going out drinking all the time and didn’t watch this kids since she had her parents help. Now they are getting divorced. Them living with her parents caused a lot of relationship problems for them as well.

@Kailee oh, I’m so sorry 😓 thanks for sharing. I hope you guys are able to mend things❤️

@Kelsey no, thankfully neither of them are any more aggressive than toddler boys should be haha… they get along well… maybe I’m being a little crazy and possessive, I just don’t want him to have to share everything all the time in a space that’s supposed to be his. There’s very limited boundaries when it comes to my nephew and he kind of gets away with everything so I just have some feelings about it lol

@KayLee thank you for your honesty!💕