Angry at nursery key worker

So you couldn’t even give your child calpol for teething and send him to nursery? Sounds like a ridiculous policy

@Helen, I agree, but it's pretty standard around here. But I'm more annoyed at the fact they accused me of lying.

I would make a complaint to the manager

Have they actually accused you or just asked? They have a duty of care and many parents do give their children calpol to mask a temperature so the nursery have to be sure. (Not meaning to come across funny, but I think in the moment things can be taken in the wrong way)

I work in childcare, and the number of parents who do actually drug their kids so they can bring them in sick is insane and unbelievably infuriating. So many kids are brought to care when they are sick. I know a mum who dropped her kid off with a crackly wheezy chest, and he was allowed to stay. He got progressively worse, and when he woke up from his nap, he looked and sounded completely awful. The director refused to send him home, and the mum refused to take him. He had pneumonia. I will forever regret not threatening to or actually calling an ambulance. The centres I've worked at, you need to be off for 24 hours for a temp. So if they have a temp and we are aware or send them home because of it, they can't come back for 24hours and need a clearance to return. 37.9 is a mild temp, and we would send the child home. They may have come across as accusatory, but they are just trying to do their job. Talk to the director if you have concerns, though. I hope bubba feels better soon.

@Alex, it felt very accusing. Because she asked me if I had given him any calpol. I told her no as he didn't have a temperature. Then she said, "It seems that you give him calpol in the morning, so it wears off by afternoon." But she seems a bit off with me and my husband since Christmas. We can't really pinpoint why. @Hannah I understand that some parents do send their kids in with calpol still and break policy. My little one didn't have a temperature when I brought him home and had no temperature in the morning. The fact I already told them he didn't have calpol or a temp, then to accuse me of giving him calpol just feels a bit contradictory. Obviously if he takes a turn in the day, I would come and collect him from nursery.

Maybe email in and just say it’s really upset you as it felt like you were being accused. This happened with me once as my little boy had conjunctivitis and the doctor wouldn’t give us anything (he was around 19 months at the time) but they basically accused me of not taking him to the doctors because ‘they’d never known a doctor not to prescribe something’ I was upset so I understand. Nurseries can be brutal with things like this. Nothing on you personally, but many many parents will do this and they have to closely monitor it. I do understand though but try not to take it personally x

I'm not saying that you have done this. I was merely pointing out that this is something educators have to deal with on a nearly daily basis. When your son is sick and they tell you he's been off or send him home, does it often happen in the afternoon? As I also said, he had a temp the previous day. It makes sense that she would assume the temp increased or that he might still have one. If you are unhappy, then definitely reach out to the director.

@Alex, where I'm from, you don't need a prescription to get drops or cream for conjunctivitis. Just ask a pharmacist. Might be the same where you are. Worth checking for next time.

@Hannah my little boy was around 18 months at the time so we couldn’t get them unless they were prescribed. We can get them from a pharmacy now that’s he’s 2 xx